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What age do you think your looks started to fade ?

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LardLizard · 14/02/2018 23:30

I think I still look pretty great at forty, don’t think my skin looks forty at all
So I’m wondering when will I really notice it ? Know it’s different for everyone
I’m think maybe after 50 now ?

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llangennith · 14/02/2018 23:48
Worieddd · 14/02/2018 23:48

I’m 35 and have started noticing fine lines. My hair is thinning and the greys are taking over faster than anything.

I think I still ‘look’ ok though

BettyBooJustDoinTheDoo · 14/02/2018 23:50

I agree doobigetta I think pretty fades fast but good bone structure and striking features will last.

KC225 · 14/02/2018 23:50

44 for me. Held it together till then. 44 was a physical and facial landslide

Umakemefeellikedancing · 14/02/2018 23:52

I too have noticed droopy eye. I have one drooping and my eyebrows aren't inline 😕

Ollivander84 · 14/02/2018 23:54

I'm 33 and managing to have both acne and wrinkles Hmm
Well, less wrinkles now as I've had my first Botox Grin

Charolais · 14/02/2018 23:54
MrsEricBana · 14/02/2018 23:54

45-50 is when I think you suddenly start to feel/look "older". Bugger.

fairylightsdown · 14/02/2018 23:55

I look better now in my late 30s than did in my 20s. I look different, but it suits me more. However, I fully expect to wake up one morning and see my dad's face staring back at me in the mirror.

TinklyLittleLaugh · 14/02/2018 23:55

I had DC4 in my early 40s and I look very young on his baby photos; very slim from breastfeeding, short hair minimal make up. I think I lost it a bit in my late 40s though.

I'm early 50s now, I've changed my hair colour and style, wear a lot more make up but keep it natural looking. I think I look pretty okay.

Fosterdog123 · 14/02/2018 23:56

Christ, those of you who are saying in your 30s, you just wait.....

My face has fallen off the edge of a cliff in the last 6 months and I'm 46. Was fine up until now. ☹️

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LardLizard · 14/02/2018 23:57

Doobi I think your onto something there, about baby faces and blonde hair

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ursuslemonade · 14/02/2018 23:57

I'm 35 and I haven't looked 'good' since I got pregnant first 6 years ago. Stress, worry, difficult dc, disrupted sleep, unshiftable weight gain. Even if I manage to lose the flab I know I will never get that look back again.

neveradullmoment99 · 14/02/2018 23:59

I think I was pretty when I was young. I'm not too bad now but not like I used to be. I try and make the most of myself. I would say I look pretty but in a different more mature way.

neveradullmoment99 · 14/02/2018 23:59

Oh and I am 50.

Aridane · 15/02/2018 00:00

45 - 50

NotSureThisIsWhatIWant · 15/02/2018 00:01

I was looking about 38 at 45. The big drop for me was around my 47th birthday.

I think that was when I looked in the mirror and realised my age had finally caught with me...

FlickingVees · 15/02/2018 00:02

About 13, when I started to get cystic acne.

It was a fantastic life lesson for me to crack on with it, and don’t depend on your looks, or judge others on the basis of theirs.

Of course having oily skin now is handy when my mates are complaining about their wrinkles. I don’t get any.

“Losing your looks” is such a strange way of talking about aging. It is aging you’re talking about, isn’t it OP, not acid attacks, car accidents, or the pox.

MinnieMousse · 15/02/2018 00:03

It depends what kind of looks you have. There's a particular type, very babyfaced with blonde hair and blue eyes, dimples, rosebud mouth and so on, that is often gorgeous when very young but fades fast- even from the late 20s. You tend to see that women whose looks are based more on strong, striking features, and who maybe aren't as obviously pretty when young, look better for much longer, because it's all on bone structure.

I hope this is true - I have always been strong featured! I did meet a woman recently who said she recognised me from primary school and I hadn't changed a bit, but maybe I was a particularly elderly-looking 10 year old.

I would say that I have quite a few grey hairs now I'm in my early 40s which I think look aging on me personally, so I dye them. I also noticed my face start to sag a bit from late 30s onwards. The only people I know who I think look older than they are are the ones who have a lot of lines, probably caused by sun-damage.

frecklemcspeckles · 15/02/2018 00:04

My mum died when I was 36. Til then I looked late twenties. Clear skin. No need for makeup. I aged overnight. I look awful. Same as my df who always looked way younger than his age. He aged 15years overnight. I'd swear it impossible if I didn't see it before us
Crazy what grief does.

Justmethenhuh · 15/02/2018 00:05

I was gorgeous. As in walk in to a room and feel people turn and look at me. Asked to model etc. I would look in the mirror and I knew I looked damn good.

Two children and a divorce down - it’s undoubtedly had an impact. A negative one. I’m still attractive, I look good but i have lost too much weight and look a bit scrawny. Plus there’s definitely wrinkles where was completely smooth beforehand. And my hair isn’t nearly as luscious as it once was. Im 36

I thought I’d care more about the change but I’ve surprised myself. Less superficial than I assumed I was!

Onlyoldontheoutside · 15/02/2018 00:06

Somewhere between 45-52.Was 41 when I had DD,digital photography was just taking off so even though there are so few pics of me that you'd think she was a motherless child there are enough over the years for me to see the change.
I would now like to be a hag or a crone but apparently you need to be thin to be either of these.

6079SmithW · 15/02/2018 00:06

I agree with ursus. Basically since getting pregnant I just look haggard. Not all the DC 'fault'. There were complications with the pregnancy and I have had some serious illness, but night after night of broken sleep has definitely taken it's toll! 👵🏼

Loveache · 15/02/2018 00:08

Agree with pp about the blonde baby face look fading the fastest. And I hate to say it but I think people with children definitely age faster afterwards.
But I know lots of 'older' women who are stunning- it's about good bone structure, taking care of yourself and not trying (or caring) to still look as they did at 23.

StaplesCorner · 15/02/2018 00:11

I was ok till about 45, then it was a gradual decline. About 54 it all went to shit. I look like a caricature fat middle aged lump now, my hair is only starting to go grey but its very thin and lank.

God I'm depressed now!!