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To buy a radar key

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PixieCutRegret · 13/02/2018 21:12

Just to set the scene a bit, my town is fairly small and has 3 loos with baby changes that are for general public use (ie not in a coffee shop where you have to buy something, even some of these have radar keys too). All of these are accessible toilets with radar keys. Usually it's a bit of a pain in the arse to hunt down a member of staff/ visit the shop mobility to get a key but really just a minor inconvenience and not great when ds has done a poo.

Today though I had to visit shop mobility to get the key, the key was not in the usual place so it had to be hunted down. As I was changing ds someone knocked on the door so I finished up as quickly as I could. When I came out a woman in a wheelchair was waiting and although I apologised she really did not look happy, I felt awful but ds needed a change. If I didn't have to track down the key I wouldn't have been long gone before she knocked on the door. Would I be unreasonable to buy a radar key online just for the use of these toilets?

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rainbownights · 13/02/2018 21:15

Are you allowed? When I got mine 20 years ago (which I had to buy even though I have a disability) I had to prove I was disabled.

If anyone can buy them these days then why not, you need the loos and the money goes towards their upkeep.

Fletchasaurus · 13/02/2018 21:17

Just to clarify, the only baby change facilities are in the accessible toilets?

TinaMena · 13/02/2018 21:17

Makes you wonder what a disabled person would do if they couldn't use the loo because a disabled person was in there

OldHag1 · 13/02/2018 21:19

Wi got one for my mum from Amazon cost about £3. I would say get one.

mtpaektu · 13/02/2018 21:20

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teenmumandsowhat · 13/02/2018 21:22

Most local councils sell them. And don’t generally need any proof of disability either.
My ex was disabled. But it was me who brought the key for him, and I was asked no questions or anything.

FreudianSlurp · 13/02/2018 21:22

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Flipflopflipflap · 13/02/2018 21:23

I Have one due to hyper mobility and arthritis particularly affecting my knees and hips, so I find the rail and higher seat really helps if I’m having a flare up. But I’m not disabled. They’re “accessible” not exclusive

WiseOldHag · 13/02/2018 21:25

Lots of people have invisible disabilities. Not always physical ones.

PixieCutRegret · 13/02/2018 21:25

rainbownights - you can get them off Amazon, I'm not sure if they work or not but it's cheap enough to try

Fletchasaurus - yes, the others are in coffee shops where they don't want non customers to use them. The ladies are big enough to get the buggy in so I can change him in there, but no good if I babywear or it's an explosive poo

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FreudianSlurp · 13/02/2018 21:26

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x2boys · 13/02/2018 21:30

I got three from Amazon for £1.99 my son is disabled btw why start a thread though Hmm

PixieCutRegret · 13/02/2018 21:30

FreudianSlurp - I wish they were separate too, as far as it is possible disabled people should not have to wait and parents should not have to feel guilty for using a changing facility.

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AveEldon · 13/02/2018 21:30

I bought one from Radar direct
Most useful in places like National Rail stations where you have to hunt down a member of staff to use the baby change

Huntinginthedark · 13/02/2018 21:31

Did you really put this in aibu!!! ShockConfused

PixieCutRegret · 13/02/2018 21:32

x2boys because I wasn't sure if it was ethical to buy one if I'm not entitled to one.

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PixieCutRegret · 13/02/2018 21:33

AveEldon the one at the station is the worst!

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zeeboo · 13/02/2018 21:35

You'd get a similar mouthful from me if I wet myself or worse because you were in there doing something you could do in any number of other places. Disabled people can ONLY use disabled loos. We don't get them as a bonus to use as well as other loos, we get them because they are the only ones we can get our wheelchairs in, or change our clothes and use the sink to wash in privacy when we soil ourselves because of waiting for you to change your child.

x2boys · 13/02/2018 21:36

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Samcro · 13/02/2018 21:37

Really people wonder why the op started this thread

HardAsSnails · 13/02/2018 21:39

I don't think you should buy one as you don't meet the criteria (having a disability or health condition which means you need accessible toilet access).

At the very least though, if people are using them please buy official Radar keys from the online radar shop or your local council/shopmobility for example. Fake radar keys have been known to break in the locks and ruin the locks which fucks things up for people who really do need those toilets.

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Huntinginthedark · 13/02/2018 21:40

Well just because she’s throwing herself into the lions den on this one!

I have seen lots of assisted toilets with changing facilities that’s why they’re assisted and not exclusive to anyone.
Ergo. Just go buy a radar key.

But on Aibu it’s not going to go that way!!

ozymandiusking · 13/02/2018 21:41

If you google Radar Key, The site Disability Rights uk comes up.
You can buy from them £4.50

PixieCutRegret · 13/02/2018 21:41

zeeboo sorry I'm not really sure where else other than in the changing rooms or in the buggy when I have it.

x2boys why start any thread on here really.

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