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To not go to work... I'm just knackered

33 replies

lborgia · 12/02/2018 21:37

All sorts been happening this year, including a bad reaction to some medicine, eldest starting new school, youngest being assessed for learning issues, lots of support for couple of friends with really big life stuff going on (well one of them feeling she needs to not exist anymore), difficult stuff in several other areas.. and I'm just bloody knackered.

Ive been in the job 18 months, very safe position, but have never ever in my life just not gone to work unless half dead/ hospital etc.

For some reason the assessment stuff with ds just did for me yesterday. Feeling like an awful parent for not realising her wasn't just "quirky", and all the tiredness has caught up with me. I feel as if I'm going to cry and could sleep for 100 years.

I could take a day sick but would feel really guilty about that too.

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OP posts:
Fabpinky · 12/02/2018 21:40

Take a sick day and look after yourself!

Butterymuffin · 12/02/2018 21:40

Take a sick day. Certainly if you can avoid losing pay. You sound like you really need one.

millsbynight · 12/02/2018 21:40

Once in a blue moon when you're on your knees exhausted, I think it's ok.

Uffishthought · 12/02/2018 21:40

Sounds like a very good idea for your mental and physical health

Caucho · 12/02/2018 21:43

Did the same thing myself today. I’ve slaved away at the same place for almost 10 years and only took about 3 days off sick in all that time when most of my colleagues took considerably more. Woke it feeling shit today and just said I’m not going in even though I probably could have done if I had to. Depression sucks

Saltandsauce · 12/02/2018 21:43

Yup, take a sicky, even speak to doc if you are extremely low,m. Your mental health is just as important as your physical health.

You aren’t a rubbish parent, rubbish parents don’t worry about things like that. Hopefully the docs can help xxx

Saltandsauce · 12/02/2018 21:44

*low

halfwitpicker · 12/02/2018 21:44

Stay home

Littlecaf · 12/02/2018 21:46

Stay home yes, but maybe also see if you can talk to someone? GP or local councilling service? Perhaps a bit stressed/anxious? It’s ok.

InToMyHeart · 12/02/2018 21:52

Take a day off. It's better than working yourself into the ground and ending up being signed of for a month or so!

sparklefarts · 12/02/2018 21:52

Take more than a day if you can. Two - 3 is possible Thanks

meandmytinfoilhat · 12/02/2018 21:57

Can you take the rest of the week off sick? How long can you self cert for?

MyKingdomForBrie · 12/02/2018 21:59

I think that stress is perfectly ok to treat as sickness, it can be more damaging than many normal illnesses. I’d be honest with them that it’s stress though.

Idontdowindows · 12/02/2018 22:07

Can you take a few days? You need to rest. Stress is an illness as PP said.

Fairenuff · 12/02/2018 22:08

I disagree. You've overstretched yourself and now this is the consequence. Should you be posting here or sleeping? What time do you have to get up tomorrow?

Idontdowindows · 12/02/2018 22:13

Fairenuff so she has overstretched herself (as if she deliberately did it to herself) and now she must be punished by being made to stretch herself even further?

Why should she endanger her health further for a job? She has sick days she can take, she is entitled to them, she needs to recuperate.

Trialsmum · 12/02/2018 22:15

It sounds like you need it! But don’t say your stressed, it’ll look bad on your record. Say your sick and take a couple of days. Or a UTI or something that can easily be sorted with ‘antibiotics’.

Wolfiefan · 12/02/2018 22:15

You sound like you're on your knees. Can you take a day and seek some RL support and get some rest? Flowers

user764329056 · 12/02/2018 22:15

Take a few days off to rest and recharge, don’t push yourself over the edge

Unnoticed · 12/02/2018 22:16

Idontdowindows - I never und

Unnoticed · 12/02/2018 22:18

Idontdowindows - I never understand what people mean about being entitled to ‘sick days’. I’ve never had a job that entitles me to any - if you are sick you take time off, but you are entitled to a certain number per year that can be used in place of annual leave.

Unnoticed · 12/02/2018 22:19

*aren’t entitled to a certain number...

Rockclimber12 · 12/02/2018 22:24

You sound as though you need more than a day off, can you take 3-4 days off in a row and cut back on the support for others (not children obviously) so you can get better. Stress is bloomin corrosive and hurts us more than we think. Sometimes the only way our bodies can let us know they've had enough is to get really tired and run down. You're more likely to get poorly as well if you have lots of stress to deal with. And it's not a bad time of year to be off poorly - I always found that people are less suspicious when you're off in winter bug season, if you know what I mean, compared to the middle of summer. Go on take the time off.

Idontdowindows · 12/02/2018 22:26

I never understand what people mean about being entitled to ‘sick days’

What I mean is that when people are unwell, and the labour laws of the country they are in, entitle unwell people to take (paid or not) time off, then people are entitled to take time off when they are unwell.

It is then not up to others to judge if the OP is unwell enough.

stickytoffeevodka · 12/02/2018 22:30

She has sick days she can take, she is entitled to them, she needs to recuperate.

I've never worked a single job where I'm entitled to sick days!

If I'm off sick, I don't paid.