it's not bloody weird to go away without your significant other, is it?!

[HakeLively]

I mean, I used to do it all the time in my previous relationship, because we could hardly ever get time off together.

My DP have had all holidays together. Thinking about it though I haven't had a holiday at all in nearly two years apart from a crap works trip to stay in a hotel that looked like a filing cabinet in Cologne.

I can have a week off at the end of the May. DP cannot. I want to go away by myself somewhere (as I said, I used to do this all the time) but DP ia being weird about it, saying it's weird to go away by oneself when in a relationship and why would I want to do that?

Because I don't want to spend a boring week where we live where the highlights are checking the bloody cat for fleas or wondering if it's going to be Denise or Julie that does the areobics class on Wednesday, you fuckwit.

I used to go to lovely European cities where I had a lovely room all to myself, drank wine in little town squares and shared croissants with friendly sparrows. Had fondue all to myself in Switzerland and drank prosecco on ramshackle rooftops in Italy. It was bliss! I barely even talked to anybody.

AIBU to just go away by myself again? I mean, I'm not asking DP for permission, as fortunately his second name is not Grey, but AIBU to think it's a perfectly normal thing to do?

It sounds like a great use of your free week to me. Heavenly, actually!

That said, I might think it was a bit odd if my fiancé went away completely by himself, purely because he hasn’t done so before. Maybe it’s the change rather than the going away itself that’s making your DP feel weird.

Not weird at all. Last relationship I was in, I went to Rome with my sister and the man himself stayed here. I had a really lovely time without once having to think about what DP would like/wouldn't like etc... No makeup, no shaving, none of it. Only thing is my sister is considerably younger than me and my mother instinct was at full throttle the whole holiday (she's autistic and sens) because when she was born, my mother went back to work asap leaving ne with this very lovely and beautiful creation under the impression that our father was actually in charge.

Not weird, in fact every few years if DH doesn't go for a good long adventure I'm tempted to throw him out. 😊 It's good for our marriage.

The only weird thing is that you share your croissants with birds - why would you do that when you can eat them all yourself?!!!

No seriously it's not weird, it would be different if you were having the same week off and travelling separately but to go away when he's working is fine IMO.

He's weird.

I have 2 long weekends planned with friends already this year. DH has at least one planned. Just because you're together doesn't mean being in each other's pockets all the time.

What does he expect you to do all week? Wait in for him and cook his dinners? Fuck that.

I think it's fine. My DP and I spend all holiday time together but I am self employed so it makes it easier. He is regularly out with his mates or working so I hardly see him and this is the time where we get to spend proper time together but I don't see why you can't do that especially since he can't go anyway.

YANBU at all.

Just becaus3 you’re a couple, it doesn’t mean you have to be handcuffed together at all times. Although handcuffs have their place...

DP has a very time consuming hobby, so while he’s away doing that, I go away either with a friend or on my own. It’s great!

Nothing wrong or weird about it at all. My parents did this for their specific interests, or occasionally to visit their respective mothers when theirs were alive.

Yes. I did it recently. Some family members were up in arms. DH was fully supportive. A week away without my kids. Whatever next? Social services at my door. They were with their father FGS.

Do it! I get almost 2 weeks more than DH. 1 week goes on covering the childminder's holiday. 1 week is saved for major illness of either DC but that hasn't materialised in this annual leave year so off I went!

Sidge because I love birdies those cheeky Parisian sparrows can share my crossiant anytime!

We are going to 'talk about it later' (we are both out) 🙄 Haha. He says if it was him he'd love the chance to have a week pottering at home and watching shite on TV and having long lie ins but fuck that! I was unemployed for a month at Christmas and I feel like I've got Wanted Down Under out of my system.

He's being unreasonable AND a bit of a hypocrite!

So he can have a holiday without you, but you can't have one without him?

Book it, go. Tell him he needs to put his big boy pants on.

I think he'd find it less weird if I was going away with friends.

I have friends. But I don't want to go on holiday with them was never a big fan of that!

Oh do it. I have a unprecedented opportunity coming up to do the same and am just having a think.
Last year I took my dcs away for a late sunshine break and we had a lovely time