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AIBU?

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It's probably a mixture of hormones and alcohol but if your partner danced with a stranger in front if you would it upset you ?

30 replies

Dickorydockwhatthe · 11/02/2018 23:02

My dh is a friendly guy almost too friendly and can come across as flirty at times. This is obviously magnified even more when he is drunk. The thing is ive mentioned a few times to him now that when we've gone out on couples nights and I'm talking to my friends or gone to get a drink I will some times see him dancing with other women. It's harmless I guess but it makes me feel uneasy at times as if he's like that when I'm there I'd dread to think what he's like when I'm not. My biggest worry is that he always gets leg less when he goes out with the lads. Whilst flirting etc is harmless fun and an ego boast I don't really appreciate it under my nose and wouldn't do it to him.
We went to a ball last night and there was a couple sat on our table who we didn't know. Towards the later part of the night I came back from the toilet and dh was dancing and spinning her around the dance floor. I didnt see where her dh was so not sure if he minded. I carried on talking to friends and tried to ignore it knowing they were just dancing but the alcohol didnt help my insecurities. I then went to go and get our coats as our taxi was due and dh shortly came running after me asking if I was alright. I hadn't made an issue but obviously he must of felt like he had upset me.

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LuxuryMilk · 12/02/2018 09:55

Well it would bother me because that is not in DHs personality at all, so it would be a strange thing for him to do.

Llanali · 12/02/2018 11:41

Wouldn’t bother me. It’s just dancing. I might be miffed if it was 19 year old style pelvic grinding and hand wandering, but swinging, spinning dancing? Fine. I’d be hacked off if my husband suggested I shouldn’t dance with other men either.
I don’t have a problem with him playing pool with women, or joining a quiz team with women, general dancing is no different to me.

Argeles. You sound unhinged. So no one except you is worthy of anything more than being described as a dirty hamburger?

pigeondujour · 12/02/2018 12:10

Jesus Christ. This has taken a turn. Poor Argeles' husband.

OP, whether I'd mind or not is context dependent but in the context you've described I would be very upset, yes.

Branleuse · 12/02/2018 12:32

Id be astounded if DP ever danced with anyone, but if it was part of his usual personality and it appeared non intimate and just friendly, then it wouldnt bother me.
If he was grinding, then thats different

FizzyGreenWater · 12/02/2018 12:40

Bloody hell Argeles, ishoos much?

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