I know for a fact I am being lied to . I asked in a casual conversation when watching something 'do you watch it much' and was told 'very occasionally when away from home but not really that interested' . The fact is I know for certain it's 4 or 5 times a week at home when I am out and sometimes in middle of day too. I haven't got spyware or anything but I think he is totally unaware I've always kept software on my spare laptop to watch router stuff from when son was a bit younger and got into a bullying situation . So whilst he is busy hiding and deleting and private browsing, make no bloody difference. Thing is I am not an ogre, pretty mild mannered and would be OK with occasional use and a bit of honesty even though I'm not massively int it myself, , I am not ok though with this often, the minute I go out the door and lying to my face. It's not the first time he has been secretive about something he thinks I might not like. Is he the norm or are any guys upfront and honest about it?? I do realise it sounds controlling to say I'm not ok about the quantity. It's always girl on girl stuff too and to be honest it's making me feel totally turned off!! So far I've said nothing, because I wanted to see if it was 'a phase' . Nuts I know!!