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AIBU?

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Reverse threads

8 replies

Tidy2018 · 09/02/2018 19:36

Can someone please explain what is a reverse thread, and why would someone do it? Thank you.

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petbear · 09/02/2018 19:41

It's where someone is describing a person who has done a certain thing that has angered everyone, when it's actually THEM who is that person (for example.)

It's a way to get people to say what they think without admitting it's them IYSWIM.

Somerford · 09/02/2018 19:42

A reverse thread is where the OP puts themselves on the opposite side of a set of circumstances, they might think a friend has acted badly for reasons x, y and z and they'll start a thread saying that they did x, y and z to their friend. After being told that they were out of line they'll say "thanks very much, that's exactly what I thought and this is a reverse".

I'm not sure why people do it. Perhaps they want to show the thread to the person who has aggrieved them and they think it's more authentic if the condemnation was initially aimed at them rather than a third party. Who knows. I think most people are perfectly capable of understanding a set of circumstances and arriving at a conclusion regardless of which party they are speaking to. Seems daft to me.

petbear · 09/02/2018 19:43

They say stuff like ......

'This woman I know has spent £3000 on her kids for Christmas, and people think she's ridiculous.'

But the poster posting it IS the woman who spent £3000.

I have no idea why people do reverse threads. It's so odd.

Valentinesfart · 09/02/2018 19:45

I think they do it because you can get the answer you want that way.

There are a huge amount of arseholes who will deliberately not side with the op no matter how correct she obviously is because the opportunity to be a dick has presented itself

InToMyHeart · 09/02/2018 19:46

So if I said "AIBU to dress my children in dirty bin bags, my friend says it's wrong?"
And everyone replies along the lines of "yes, you are being unreasonable, don't dress your kids like that."
And then ten pages in you say that actually you were the friend doing the judging and you wanted people's opinions.
It's completely unnecessary because you could just say "AIBU to judge my friend for dressing her kids in dirty bin bags" instead.

Tidy2018 · 09/02/2018 20:46

Thank you all for your explanations. Still puzzling, but perhaps I haven't been here long enough yet :-))

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Valentinesfart · 10/02/2018 06:22

It's completely unnecessary because you could just say "AIBU to judge my friend for dressing her kids in dirty bin bags" instead.

No! Because if you said a solid 1/3 of the posts would say

"Stop being so nosy"

"Who are you to judge, it's only a snapshot. That might have been a one off where all your friend's children's clothes exploded"

"It sounds like you don't like your friend much!"

"Bin bags are solid, practical and water proof"

DasPepe · 10/02/2018 06:26

Didn't want to read and run:

LOL @Valentinesfart

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