For getting cross with other medling mother......

[FeelingMoreHuman]

Little rant....was at my postnatal coffee yesterday and one of the other mothers actually went into my dd's pram to get a blanket and put it over my dd while I was feeding her, as the mother thought she felt cold! IT'S MY DAUGHTER, am I being unreasonable for being angry that she stuck her nose in??? How could I have defending myself without causing offence? Hate confrontation but don't want to seem like I'm a complete walkover!

Oh for goodness sake - she was trying to be kind. Make sure you stick to decaf.

You are being unreasonable. She was trying to be caring.

Lighten up!

chill out feeling!

having said that, it is hard not to be over sensitive.

now, if my mum did that.....

ah yes, ll, my friends can do practically anything they like to ds, but mum is a different matter!

she was trying to be kind!

I would feel really insulted at that and I'm a pretty chilled person.

wow, would you really consider something like that as an insult?

She was trying to be helpful. Yes, it's an intrusive annoying thing to do, but is it really worth a fight? I would probably roll my eyes a bit, and mutter about English mothers being goofy about the cold , but her intentions were good, really.

i would be annoyed if someone just put a blanket over my bayb without saying anything. i would think she thought she knew better than 1

if they said "oh baby looks cold, would you like a blanket?" thinking maybe you did, but couldnt reach as you were feeding baby, then i wouldnt be insulted

if i didnt think my baby was cold i would just say "no shes fine, thank you"

I actually think it is a quite nice thing to do, but then i am a weirdo.

better than I

not 1 [blsuh]

Maybe I am being oversensitive . I'm just not a confrontational person so I would never dream of forcing my opinion onto anyone else, so it just took me by complete surprise that she was so forceful in making it clear that she thought I was putting my baby in harms way by not having a blanket on her....did I mention it was 23 degrees celcius, dd was wearing trousers and a tshirt...and frankly could've been okay in just shorts and a tshirt!!! Am on decaff, but maybe should switch to plain water

joins pucca in the wierdiness (does this word exist?)

Tbh there are more important things to worry about than over analysing (sp?) this

I think you might be reading too much in this. Maybe it's was just instinctive, I'm sure she doesn't think she is in anyway better

Well this is why I was so upset, because I did try to politely explain that she was fine. And frankly my dd would be the first one to let me know if she wasn't comfortable!!!

I would. Maybe I'm not as chilled as I think . I would take it that she was saying I wasn't making sure my own dd was warm enough. If I'd thought she needed a blanket I would have asked for one, but just to do it without asking first I think is interfering. I wouldn't say anything though, I'd just seethe.

Maybe she thought she was helping, maybe she was trying to be friendly who knows.

For example, yesterday at dd's nursery, there was a mum about to try and get her pram up 5 steps so i ran up to her and helped her, i would be quite confused and hurt if she thought i was interfering.

No one else stepped up to help this woman, so i did, now i am thinknig god what if she didn't want my help!? was i interfering, i think we worry about little things too much now a days.

You are a slight nut

FFF...Who me? yes i know, i admit it

I think that's different Pucca.