racist ex having contact with child

[forevertired2]

Hi all, i've posted about my ex before but have since changed my name on here.

to try and cut a long story short, my ex was very abusive throughout our relationship. calling me fat, whale, nigga (i'm mixed race) saggy.. the list could go on. we have now separated and i'm so much happier. my issue is this. we arranged that he would see our DD (5 months) twice a week at his mothers but since then i've received another barrage of abuse including him calling me a fat nigga in front of our daughter again. i've now said that if he wants contact with her he will have to take me to court as i don't want that around my 1/4 black baby!!! he's saying i'm being immature and not thinking about our daughter that i'm just upset about what he's said and using her as a weapon. i don't think i am. so my question is AIBU to tell him he can't see our daughter and the only way he'll be able to is if he won a court case to do so?

@Dancingfairy yes but he would say that he's not that he didn't mean it that he was just saying it to hurt me

Forever You are making big strides in making a better life for you and your daughter. You don't need to explain your past to anyone here

Isn't it against the law to be racist - report him!

Keep your DD away from this horrible individual.

Good luck

Good bit of victim blaming here.

I remember you from your other posts OP, I'm so glad you've managed to stay separated from this man.

You are absolutely doing the right thing by your dd by stopping contact. Keep a log off incidents so you can call on it if it goes to court. Well done.

I would keep him away from her too. I don't think you are being unreasonable. She will grow up with an image of herself when she hears him calling you these things, and if he thinks and says these things about you then she'll think that of herself too. He's disgusting, and not fit to be a father xxx