Oh i’m so upset and can’t stop crying.
I’ll try to be as brief as poss. I’m dealing with the aftermath of childhood abuse that lasted until I left home at 19(emotional, physical, psychological) i’m 46 now.
I had a lovely cousin, who used to look after me whilst my mother went galavanting etc and she was so good to me.
I have more pics of me and her than I do of me and my mum (only 1!)
I last heard from her when I was 9 years old. I thought about her a lot, I missed her when I grew up (mum and dad moved a lot) and I never heard from my cousins again.
I asked my aunt about my cousin and asked for her address. I sent a Christmas card and a letter, telling her how much she meaner to me, how often I thought of her, about my children etc etc. I didn’t bring up the abuse I went through, I said that I hadn’t had contact with my parents for over 20 years.
I got a letter back from my cousin saying that i’d shocked and stressed her, she could do without me contacting her and I was not to ever contact her again. Her words were that I had opened a Pandora’s box.
I’m devastated to say the least.
I’ve cried all afternoon.
I loved her. She was so good to me as a child and I missed her so much. It took some guts to write to her, as I have no idea of what my parents had done to her, or why i’d Never heard from her. I was a child, and I only wrote to her in the hope I could see her. She told me she was on medication and had to go to hospital. I too am on meds, and see a psychologist at the moment who is really helping me through. The psychologist has said what I went through, many people don’t survive. Somehow I have, quality of life isn’t great, but i’m Here.
My mum specifically caused a lot of problems with other relatives.
I wan’t expecting that response.
I know that I have to respect my cousins wishes, I won’t contact her again, but why the horrible reply? Thank you for reading x