How would you feel if..

[cleanthehouse]

Your MIL said to DH in front of you " I'll bring so and so with me on Thursday, make sure the house is clean" ? Mind you my house is always clean, DH does nothing and she knows I'm the one who does everything?

He will say "my mum is coming round today ".. "my sister is coming round today" don't even ask if it's ok with me. Sometimes I've asked him if he just can't take the kids to his mums house instead, and he always say no

My MIL uses the spare key to let herself in multiple times and clean my house that isn't dirty! I also lost a lot of my sheets and turns out she took them to iron them... bed sheets...for my bed without asking! Everyone says I should be greatful that she does it but I find it really offensive! One week her and my own mum were round, I hung washing on line and the two of them took it down and re did it as I didn't hang it right... luckily becuase my mum was doing it to I could tell them to beggar off! If was just my mil she takes offense and goes tell hubby if I say anything! No suggestions of what to do... if you find a way to sort the behaviour let me know!!!!

Just saw your other message it's like reading myself! A few months ago I was in pj's brushing teeth and she let herself in and laughed that I was at top of stairs with tooth brush in my mouth?!? She didn't apologise for coming around Un invited or for not knocking! On Christmas Eve at about half 8 at night I was topless and she let herself in... I covered myself in blanket and said was topless and she sat down for a cup of tea! I don't understand why it happens!

You take us as you find us would have been my reply.

My house is clean but lived in.

Just read your update, you have a partner who doesn't pull his weight.

I can't believe he has never changed a nappy.

Why are you letting him treat you this way?

Feb2018 change the locks 😂, well I'm leaving the bastard not for just this reason but for many other reasons. If your relationship is good otherwise then just change the locks but sometimes I feel like a horrible MIL can ruin the best relationship.

One time DH wasn't home and she obviously didn't know this, she was knocking and knocking on the door, she rang me whilst outside I ignored. I honestly thought she would leave if nobody answered the door, but nope she kept knocking for 10 min. Then I just had to open the door and make some excuse that I was sleeping 😒

Blacktea I was hoping he would change, I thought I could change him. His mother did everything for him, and he never had to lift a finger. I've put up with this for 7 years and I'm done. I had enough, I've realised I deserve better and I don't want to live the next 10-20 years like this. This time next year I'll be in a different place ☺️.

When you come on Mumsnet you realised how much shit you've put up with.

So you won't need to be told to LTB as you've said that you've already decided to do this.

The added bonus will be off-loading the ghastly MIL and SIL too.

Good riddance of them and good luck to you!

@Ohforfoxsakereturns

Everything? Including the show pineapple?

You should have said 'well since you failed to raise DH as a fully functioning adult, I think that's unlikely, don't you?' Cheeky bitch.

Good luck - enjoy your freedom.

The very next time a nappy needs changing hand him the baby and say your turn.

If he complains ask him how he doesn't know how to do it after 3 children.

Even if you split he needs to know how to look after his own children.

God that sounds unbearable.

I think,having read the thread, that I would start a mega Spring Clean on Wednesday evening so the house is in total disarray on Thursday. You got to that stage then realised that you desperately needed (an item) so you've gone to get it.

It's not her house. It's yours. Well, until you've offloaded your stbx.