being a mumsnet member with no children

[twosugarspls]

.. and no desire to have children. i occasionally see people posting that have no children and admit they don't want children, i thought mumsnet was for mums.. or people trying to conceive? or am i missing the point

Mumsnet - by parents, for parents

It’s a bit confusing for newbies!

Maybe it should be changed.

By parents, for anyone (except goady fuckers and trolls).

You know, in my many years here, I have seen variations on this thread so many times. Almost always with the same faux wide-eyed, disengenuous tone. 'But I just don't understand why people would post here if they don't have children'.

If the people asking this question engaged their brains or used their imaginations for just a moment they might be able to come up with even one of the many reasons why, eg

People like me who joined when pregnant, have suffered multiple miscarriages, found out that they are unlikely to ever have children, but who found support and community here
People who work in education / childcare
People who have no children but have nephews and / or nieces
People who find the pet sections informative and helpful
People who enjoy the Feminism section
People who enjoy participating in a forum where the other participants are mostly female, unlike almost all the rest of the internet
People who enjoy having a chat and a laugh
People who just stumbled across it, liked it, and stayed
And feck knows how many other reasons.

Argeles 'then I thought to myself that no one has to prove they’re a parent to join, so I guess they have to be open to everyone`
So you guess they have to be open to everyone? How very magnanimous of you.

twosugarspls, yes, you are missing something. And as you have said that you are new to the site, may I point out that's it's a bit fucking rude to come barging on to a site and tell a good number of posters that you don't think we belong here .

The site where you can swear like a cunty thing

perfect, echt

the thing is, newbies should really have a good old read and nosy around the whole site, before posting questions like this (no offense, OP), then they would realise what MN is all about. Its not difficult.

Please don't be too put off by some of the defensive or blunt replies here OP!
You asked an understandable question as an innocent newbie. Your mistakes were 1) posting this question in AIBU, the no holds barred space and 2) using which, according to unspoken Mumsnet rules, alters your tone from innocent question to 'sarcastically quizzical'.

It can take a while to get used to it here. I was really put off at first when I didn't get the sort of replies I expected and I took the rude/dismissive replies personally. However I love it here now.

Think of it as a massive adventure playground or water park. Posting in AIBU is like coming in and going down the massive, vertical slide straight away. Fine for some but it chucks you in at the deep end where you at likely to get jostled and dunked.

Like Tanterose says above,
swim around and explore a bit. There is so much good stuff here for everyone, parents or not. I don't have kids yet and come here for the humour, different perspectives, robust argument and tons and tons of support. Have learnt a lot here over the last few years.

Twosugarspls 'peaking' is the point where you realise that the transgender thing is a new version of the old story 'The Emperor's New Clothes'.

#NotAllMums

This again? How many more times, it’s becoming exceedingly tedious

Positively www.livescience.com/41975-does-coca-cola-contain-cocaine.html

As others have said, a mumsnet thread came up when i googled something (cleaning sheepskin boots I think) I don't have dc by choice and had thought the site was all about parenting issues/ttc etc. Instead i found that mumsnet demonstrates that being a mother is just one aspect of being a woman and we all have life experiences and opinions to share. All equally valid whether coming from a mother or not. I don't tend to go on the children related boards but actually, thinking about it I have been a child so there may be instances where I might want to read/comment on there just from that perspective. I like it here and have received some really good advice/tips/opinions from lots of people, some of whom happen to have children.

I'm childfree by choice. Also a man.

"Burn him! Burn him!"

The majority of the site isn't about parenting (even though the strapline under the logo says "by parents for parents" which clearly gives the game away that it's not just for mums) and it's a very active forum for advice on serious stuff and the mundane whereas often on other forum you can be waiting hours for a reply.

I think the problem OP is that this comes up with some frequency. Always struck me as it really doesn't take much thought to think of lots of types of non-parent who might find stuff helpful here.

Lots of people may not have kids by choice or not, but they could have nieces, nephews, godchildren. Or they might work with children.

viewofhedges Ian thinking of trying a new therapy ‘fish slice and sex lube’

Waves back at View, and at Fluffy and Shateners.

I've learned loads from Mumsnet and found it welcoming and full of helpful, caring and witty people. It's been great for my MH. I'm disabled by chronic illness and found it really hard having to stop work and have felt 'on the scrapheap' living on benefits.

On the boards here, I have been able to use my life experience and previous professional knowledge to help and, most importantly give support to others. I lurked for quite a while and have only been posting for a couple of months, but I feel part of a community and useful again for the first time in years. All my friends work, so weekdays were lonely and sometimes a bit sad until I found a place here.

Some of the threads on here have made me laugh until my sides ache, especially 'Paula', which is now in Mumsnet Classics was one of the first I posted on.

All I need now is Alfred from 'Gotham' as my live in in butler...

Hi fluff and weezol! people like you makes MN the generally brilliant place it is. fan club!

Waves back

Well, I've suggested that they think about changing the strapline and they don't seem completely averse to the idea.

If anyone agrees with me maybe drop them a quick line to say so.

Or suggest a new one.

I like echts ^ up there The site where you can swear like cunty thing !

Your baby is beautiful 😻

Childfree MNetter here. In 'Real Life' I talk to people who are parents all the time, so why shouldn't I do so online?

A person becoming a parent doesn't erase any possibility of their having shared experiences, sense of humour, interests etc. with non-parents.

I'm on the Litter Tray and in the Dog House, as well as enjoying the game threads and the many threads asking for advice and opinions on non-parenting issues.

The strapline and name don't put me off as a non-parent - if I didn't feel welcome, I'd quietly flounce .

waving back I think a puppy might be better than a child, at least a dog is always happy to see you! My mum used to say ‘if you have teenagers get a dog so someone is happy to see you and glad you came home!’

Fluffyears A puppy gets its teething babyhood, troublesome toddlerhood and stroppy adolescence over with much more quickly than a child .

My six and a half year old lass has been staring out of the window shouting at the rain for at least quarter of an hour. She woke me up this morning by standing on my head.

There'll be no Dreamies for her tonight if she doesn't knock it off soon. Boundaries are important, especially when you have an only cat.

I post regularly on a sport forum.
I have no interest in said sport but they have off topic sections and their political discussion sub forum is superb with many engaging and challenging posters.

I can understand why you think that OP. In reality though MN is for anyone who wants to post.

There are hundreds of sections here other than stuff about parents and babies you know!

AIBU for example... Tons of different, interesting topics!

I have just discovered this website and found this thread by searching “can I register without children”. I’m glad I can - what is a discussion without all points of view? That including people who do not yet have children but are interested in the topic?