To divorce DH?!

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Disclaimer - I'm 10 weeks pregnant.

DH is on a business trip abroad. We have had eleventy million conversations about him communicating better. It's day three and i had a message saying he landed and a message saying good morning. Is it too much to ask that he replies - even briefly - to a WhatsApp? Even just a 'hope you are snuggling up with a Friends' or something?! He has read my messages. It's not a jam packed trip. I don't even know his flight details. I know it's not that bad and many are worse but he very rarely stays away and I'm feeling hormonal and a bit vulnerable.
Doesn't help that our house is bloody freezing cos he wanted a Victorian job that is barely warmer than outside.

Grrrrrr.

Sorry. As you were.

Send him a message asking him if he is too busy buying you lots of presents and treats to answer your messages. Tomorrow go shopping for a blanket and snuggly jumper.

It would certainly be nice that he kept in touch esp given you are pregnant and all

YANBU

Thanks both. Was worried I was being OTT.

Nope that would piss me off. I’d probably send a sarky comment about him clearly being too busy to speak to you and wait for apologies to fly in but I suppose that doesn’t really fix the issue if you’ve discussed it with him loads before. What has he given as his reasons for not contacting you in the past?

Some people are just crap at communicating by text. I can send my DH half a dozen messages and get 'OK' back. Doesn't mean he's not interested or thinking about me. It's just not the best medium.

Although you think you know his schedule, something unexpected might have come up, or he might be a bit overwhelmed by work at the moment.

He has an obsession with phone use being rude. It makes him wonderfully polite company but bloody useless sometimes.

I bloody hate texting, especially when it's about nothing. What's wrong with ringing each other every couple of days?

DH doesn't even own a mobile so I certainly couldn't complain that he didn't text to say something mundane!

Technology is hard to live with. It's a constant barrage of communication that sometimes isn't needed.

I guess I hoped that contacting each other wouldn't be akin to a 'constant barrage'. He is long distance and i work long hours so phoning each other prob wouldn't work.

I think a quick phone call or message in the evening is the least he could do.

When's he back? Make the most of the big bed

greatduck that was my plan until the bloody cat realised his space was free. Not that she sleeps in it, she sleeps in my arms and if I dare roll over she wakes me up to go back to where I was.

This would really annoy me.

Can you agree that he will text you twice a day, once in the morning and once at bedtime just to check in? I would want at least that to be honest.

Buy yourself a heated throw for the sofa and an electric blanket for the bed!

Something to cuddle I guess

sunshinegirl that is a good idea, thanks. I'll talk to him about it when we get back.

I know I am partially to blame. So many times I have had to wait around because he was supposed to let me know what was going on and he doesn't. I should get better at doing my own thing. But I worry. And I just don't understand why he can't fucking learn. He is at a work party tonight, it's not as if he is head of MI5.

*when he gets back, not we.

My hubby is the same very less communication but he is the best guy in the world.
Don't know if it is worth a divorce though i think thats a bit unreasonable but u r expecting n would like more care/ concern than usual ... it's natural.

Gamma I was joking about divorce. I would have written 'to kill DH' but I can't joke about that. He is wonderful but this drives me up the wall.

I think you’re being a bit needy.

I think so too Skarossinkplunger

Yabu to still watch Friends.

Send him this

I only start getting twitchy after 2 weeks plus of no contact so I think you're being a bit unreasonable. I'm well aware that I'm not the norm though!

YABU. i would get annoyed at this myself but then again i dont really like texting. Maybe he's the same?

Send that image - or text him: Send me a text. In the next 4 hours. Minimum 15 words and make it say something nice. Repeat every day you are away , or you will come home to your hormonal pregnant wife having put itching powder in your underpants and cut up your record collection and I won’t put you on the birth certificate. We talked about this you bloody awful communicator!!!

2 weeks?! Blimey! But then I fully understand that people are different
Maybe I am being a bit needy, but it's freezing cold, I feel sick 24/7, I fell down the stairs yesterday and I had to work a 14 hr day yesterday. He is not a texter at all. But I don't understand why he doesn't want to keep in touch and given I'm having our baby I don't understand why he just bloody well do it even if he doesn't want to!

Love the pic as well as the itching powder suggestions!!

I don't think you're being needy at all OP! You would like him to send you the occasional text whilst he's away, it's not the biggest ask is it?! It's not like you've asked him to fly home and tuck you in!

I wouldn't care that he wasn't a big texter, you're pregnant and feeling a bit vulnerable and lonely, you've asked him to do something that will take him approximately 30 seconds so why can't he just suck it up and do it? I'd be pretty hacked off.

Sorry you had a rough day yesterday, pregnancy is rough so go easy on yourself.