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Can anybody help me trace my dog? DURHAM and Surrounding Areas

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Sarahh2014 · 07/02/2018 14:06

This obviously doesn't belong here but I need the traffic.5 years ago I was forced to rehome my beloved dog Jess she was 3 yrs old at the time all I know is that she was taken by a man and woman from a coastal area in Durham the man was a lorry driver I believe.I just would like to get in contact with these people so I can get closure.It was my parents who rehomed her for me as I couldn't bear to do it they live in Armthorpe in Doncaster which is where my dog was collected from

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Lucymek · 07/02/2018 15:51

Someone sold me a dog once which I purely bought because she was selling it for 20 pound and was saying she would take it to The dogs home. I obviously didn't want this puppy to be getting into the wrong hands.

She used to ask me for updates and then after a few months wanted him back. She got very abusive and so I blocked her. She threatened to come to my house. I didn't mind as I got the dog with the intention of rehoming him to my colleague . She's now left her job to look after the dog full time. Smile

HuskyMcClusky · 07/02/2018 15:52

No, that’s true. But I would imagine it’s pretty unlikely that someone who had treated an animal cruelly would be looking for it 5 years later.

Floralnomad · 07/02/2018 16:01

husky that was precisely the case with our horse .

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Sarahh2014 · 07/02/2018 16:04

Lucymek I hope that's just an anecdote relating to the thread and you're not assuming I'm like that

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Trinity66 · 07/02/2018 16:11

I had to rehome my first dog after I split with my DDs dad and wasn't in position to look after him properly anymore, a couple of years later I saw him re advertised in the rescue centre I'd handed him back to, turns out someone had taken him and then handed him back after a year and a half so i contacted them and asked if I could have him back (I'd moved outside the city and was in a much better situation to take him on again this time) he came lived with us until he died a couple of years back of old age :(

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Sarahh2014 · 07/02/2018 16:22

Trinity66 I'm glad that happened for you

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RedDogsBeg · 07/02/2018 16:31

Husky why do you think everyone on here is being quite mean?

Posters who have rescue dogs have shared why they wouldn't want contact, others have cautioned the OP that trying to find out my not bring the closure or information she wants, others have stated the current owners may not want to and are not required to engage with the OP even if she found them and how would that benefit the OP.

The people who are the current owners of the dog have a right to privacy and not be tracked down via members of a Parenting Forum.

Skarossinkplunger · 07/02/2018 17:11

I have tried to put myself in your position and I think that once I’d pictured I’d want to see the dog, then it would only be a short step to wanting him back. It wouldn’t be fair on either him or the dog’s new family.

Passmethecakeplease · 07/02/2018 17:14

I had to rehome a (gorgeous) dog under sad circumstances but there is no way I'd want to impose myself on the new owner, especially after that length of time, I'm sorry but I'm not sure it's fair on them.

Lucymek · 07/02/2018 19:10

Of course not Sarah ,I just meant that I wouldn't blame someone for not wanting to give info or updates as some people are bonkers.

Hope you find the pooch Smile

walkingdowntheboulevard · 07/02/2018 19:30

I think you have to let go and accept that after five years it's highly unlikely you'll get the closure you want. You had closure at the time as she was revoked for you.

FWIW i rehomed a dog and it died within five years as it had an incurable disease (not cancer). So you might never get closure or not what you want.

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Sarahh2014 · 07/02/2018 19:44

Yes I think you all are right I do need to let it go.She was like a child substitute at the time as me and XH couldn't conceive I think that's why I'm like I am about her

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DaisyDrip · 07/02/2018 19:53

I have a rescue dog and his previous owner comes over to see him, I send pictures and updates. I know they don't want to take him back as severe ill health forced their hand. When they come over my boy goes mad with excitement, it's lovely to see.

I don't know if I would have been so open to allowing a previous owner to contact if I hadn't been so involved with the whole process of collecting him from the previous owner after meeting them both a couple of times before I went to get him. My adoption was an unusual set up but it worked well for the previous owner, for me and more importantly for my furbaby.

honeyroar · 07/02/2018 19:54

I have had three rescue dogs, I'd happily let a previous owner have photo and let them know the dog was ok. I've stayed Facebook friends with the person we got one of the dogs from (friend's sister was about to send her to a rescue so we had her), she always likes posts about the dog, and sent me a lovely message about how I'd given her a wonderful home when the dog died. I took the dog to see her once and the dog completely blanked her! My other two rescues didn't have good owners so there's no chance of them getting in touch.

However, all that said, I'd quickly block someone who was too full in or interfering. There's no chance of them getting your dogs back, you sign away a dog when you give it a rescue and you sign a document of ownership when you take them on..

NoFucksImAQueen · 07/02/2018 22:33

Red. Maybe she's considered that and would just like to know. Saying it's impossible is ridiculous because it's not impossible at all.
Some may not like being contacted, others have said they wouldn't mind. I don't see the harm in trying, I have a rescue dog and I wish the old owners gave a fuck. Unfortunately for her they were lying self centred cunts that underplayed the issues they had caused her so they could ship her off and didn't give a damn once she'd left their house,
Adding the comment about them having the dog longer than she did was what came across as kicking while she's down. true or not you only mentioned it to make a snippy point

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Sarahh2014 · 08/02/2018 12:03

NoFucksImAQueen thank You

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RedDogsBeg · 08/02/2018 12:14

No NoFucks not a snippy point just factual. I wouldn't take kindly to someone trying to track me down after five years it's very intrusive and I would question their motives.

sonjadog · 08/02/2018 15:23

Actually, I think them having had the dog longer that the original owner is very good point.

NoFucksImAQueen · 08/02/2018 15:44

Actually, I think them having had the dog longer that the original owner is very good point.

why?

Well red you would, I wouldn't. I don't think either of us can speak on behalf of the actual owners since we don't know how they will feel. If they don't want to be found then they won't respond.

honeyroar · 08/02/2018 15:48

It doesn't matter whether you owned the dog for ten years and the new owner one day - once the dog has been signed over to the rescue and then signed to an adopter from the rescue time owned is irrelevant.

Floralnomad · 08/02/2018 16:05

Doesn’t sound like this dog was rehomed via a rescue , it sounds like the OPs parents sold it , how would they know the chap was a lorry driver from Durham , any reputable rescue wouldn’t give out that kind of information .

RedDogsBeg · 08/02/2018 16:09

honey the dog wasn't re-homed through a rescue.

NoFucks no, no-one can speak on behalf of the owners people on here are putting forward how they would feel if they were in the owners shoes and it seems the majority would not want to be found. I think it's intrusive to try and track them down, the OP's parents didn't keep address and telephone details, if the OP tracks them down she will have details the owners may not want her to have and that should be their choice not hers.

Why isn't it an issue as to how long the current owners have had the dog?

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Sarahh2014 · 09/02/2018 13:33

It wasn't a rescue shelter

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Branleuse · 09/02/2018 13:47

im so sorry you are not over your dog, but you really mustnt go hunting for him. I dont think it would give you closure. I think you need to try and move on. There were obviously big reasons you needed to rehome at the time and you run the risk of unsettling the dog and upsetting the owners as well as making yourself feel worse

Tink2007 · 09/02/2018 14:10

Why did she have to be rehomed?

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