To have taken ds to hospital

[OverTheMountain42]

DS cut his toe quite badly a week ago. Managed to deal with it at home (it bled a lot). A few days later the cut opened up again but again I dealt with it. It hasn't been getting any better but hasn't opened up since. Yesterday it was looking a little odd, I was concerned it could be infected especially as he runs around without socks so I took him to a minor injuries department. They cleaned his toe and dressed it. They said if it doesn't look to be improving this week then to take him back.

A friend contacted me today to ask how we were, DS toe injury came up, I said we had been to the hospital and they had cleaned it and dressed it. She then got really shitty and said that I've treated him like he's a baby? And I could have cleaned it and dressed it myself. I had obviously been cleaning it and putting plasters onto it, but it was more that I wanted someone to look at it to check there wasn't any infection and it was healing.

Was I being unreasonable taking him? As I said it was a minor injuries dept, not a and e. And I don't understand how exactly it's treating him like a baby?

I've really doubted myself now, this is a friend who I've looked to as someone older and wiser, so it feels like a harsh judgement.

Your friend's a dick. One of mine bashed his finger on a door, tiny damage, ended up with horrible infection and antibiotics. That's what a minor injuries unit is for. Clue's in the name

Yes, you give them responsibility as they grow. Putting his dirty socks & pants in the laundry basket, putting his rubbish in the bin, putting his toys away...not taking himself off to hospital to get a cut in his foot checked out.

Honestly, she’s batshit, she’s not going to do your mental health or confidence in parenting DS one bit of good. I think her ‘reason or season’ has come to an end!

You done the right thing 100%

He's 3? I thought you were going to say he was 43!

Has your friend assumed that you called an ambulance and had him blue lighted to A an E?
Getting it checked at minor injuries was a wise decision if it was looking infected.

My son got an infection in his toe, he had to have adult strength antibiotics to kill it off.

She's barking.

Friend is twat. You are sensible Mother.

Of course you did absolutely the right thing. Your 'friend' is being obnoxious and ridiculous.

He is 3. The biggest responsibility he should have is feeding himself. Your friend is nuts!!!

"He could have walked the 10 miles there, barefoot, in the snow."

What? With an injured toe? Honestly! It's as if some people have never even heard of hopping!

You’re babying him. He isn’t much more than a baby. What a weird thing to say.

I'm wondering what she thinks a minor injuries unit is for?

You clearly aren't a nurse and wasn't sure if your child's injury was infected so you took him to see a nurse AFTER you regularly cleaned and dressed the wound as best as you could yourself. Why on earth does your friend see a problem with that?

U would have been calling an ambulance, visiting a minor injury clinic is obviously not

I once taught a child who cut their foot at a lido. He died.
YANBU.

I don't have a mother so I have seen her as a mother type figure and my mother in law isn't very close to us.

DS is funnily enough quite independent for his age, takes himself to the toilet, will get himself a cup of water with his step etc.

I was really concerned about infection, for the reasons other posters have said, I know these cuts can be serious, we both worked together and had a boss who died from an infection caused by a cut in his finger!

I don't know whether to ask her why she said that or just now leave her?

MIU or walk in centres are what these injuries are for. YANBU.
If he'd needed stitches your GP wouldn't do them so you were in the right place.
Keep an eye on redness, swelling, infection and take back if you need to. Watch of for high temp and signs of sepsis. Again, YANBU x

I suppose you could let this one go, perhaps she misconstrued the situation in some way? If she keeps questioning your decisions as a parent it would be worth pulling her up on that. If she is like a mother to you then you should be able to do that without souring the friendship.

I know my mother can be terribly opinionated about my parenting at times or wants to tell me how she'd do things in her day! Some of it I let wash over me.
Don't let her comments make you lose faith in your own judgement, you sound sensible enough to me.

your friend is a dick and shouldnt be getting involved or commenting on your parenting. If you felt safer taking DC then thats all that matters. Ignore her

He’s three. He practical is a baby still!

He had a bad cut that you initially treated yourself. When it looked like it was getting worse you sought medical help in an appropriate way. It’s a minor injury.... you went to a Minor Injuries Unit. Failing to see the problem here.

Not sure how seeking medical attention for a person you love who can’t do so independently for whatever reason is treating them like a baby.

You took him to minor injuries... you did the right thing if you weren’t sure if it was infected or not. You aren’t a doctor. This is why we pay taxes. Your friend is just weird.

A visit to a minor injuries department can actually cost your CCG a lot more money than it costs them for you to see your GP (although this depends on various factors). In your situation I’d have tried to get a GP appointment first, given it wasn’t urgent. However, you were right to seek medical treatment.

My GP wouldn't stitch an open wound. Thats what minor injuries are for

Your "friend" is a twat. People die from sepsis.

I don't understand why people think they have the right to comment on things like this, and in such a shitty way. I'd tell my friend to do one if they questioned my parenting like this.,