I am well into my third trimester and both previous babies were born by 36 weeks. I need to know if IABU or justified to be mad about this...
My DD has playdates with another girl from an old playgroup, her mother and I take it in turns to drop them over at our houses every week or fortnight.
I tried to cancel the last playdate at my house as my DS (12 months) was vomiting all day but she insisted (her DD would be gutted) that we go ahead and so we went ahead with it, my fault I know, as I could have just firmly said no.
Both before and after last weeks playdate I told her we could not meet up for a while and gave lots of reasons why. She pushed and tried to arrange more asking if my sitter could drop DD over (whilst I am at hospital/doctors) and I said no.
Today I get back from the hospital and my sitter leaves, a minute later the doorbell goes and I assume sitter has forgotten something. Nope, it is the mother with her DD. I had left my phone at home so missed message asking if my daughter was free. She asked me in front of DD if she can go for a play, I say no, DD begs, I say no again mother asks again saying “won’t be for too long” and I say no, DD starts wailing and I say “better go” closing the door. DD’s are 5.
So AIBU to think she is out of order for just turning up when I did not reply to message and after I had told her we couldn’t do it for a while, for asking in front of my DD, for asking again after I said no and for not apologising since turning up and leaving me with DD in tears (she got over it sharpish but still FFS)
I know this is not really awful in the scheme of atrocities in the world but it has given me the rage and I’m half hoping IABU and just hormonal/tired so I don’t have to hate her