Nephhew’s baptism

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All siblings and partners are invited to my nephew’s Christening. Our children are not.

My brother says that his children behave better when cousins are not around and will chat away with adults.
If other children are around they run everywhere, churn up the garden and last time he had to go shopping for more lunchbox stuff as child guests ate everything.
He wants to enjoy party and not have it turned into a crèche.
I am really upset!

RatherBeRiding

I would go to the church service, with my children, and politely decline to go back to the house afterwards.

This ^^

He's banning children because his children can't behave if their cousins or friends are at his house? Reflects very poorly on his parenting skills and his children's behaviour.
Do your teens even want to go? I'd be inclined to decline the invitation.

Just don’t go. Your brother sounds like a twat.

I'd just go to the actual baptism and then go home afterwards.

Frillyhorseyknickers OP said her children were teenagers. They don’t generally run around screaming like younger kids do.

I would have no problem with this for a wedding but for a baptism it just seems very odd.

last time he had to go shopping for more lunchbox stuff as child guests ate everything.

He had to buy more stuff for his kids' school lunches later in the week? . That has to be the most bizarre and ridiculous piece of bullshit I've ever come across for not inviting someone over.

If your kids are teenagers just exactly how much running around and going crazy is he expecting them to do? Surely they'd be closer in age to all the adults he expects his kids to sit and talk to??

I wouldn't attend the christening at all. Your brother (and SIL?) sound crazy.

I think OP is saying it's the younger cousins that play up, but he's chosen not to invite any of them to avoid the "but why are her kids invited?"

Kids run around and eat everything. It is their job.
You have plenty of food and a bouncy castle/balloons/boxes to entertain them.
Bloody ridiculous ....
Go to the ceremony with the kids then bugger off somewhere nice afterwards.

Does seem a bit odd for a baptism.
I can nderstand it at a wedding, or even a house warming or something, but a baptism is sort of expected to have lots of children, isn't it ?

Like others, I would go to the Church then go home, or out to lunch somewhere as a family.