11 year old shown gay porn pics

[DrPill]

DS who's almost 12 and a few other classmates - boys and girls - were shown some gay porn images by a kid in their year - think S&M with blurred out genitals, men in skimpy undies gyrating into each other, naked men spread-eagled with pixilated bits etc. It happened during break and on the school bus. The child saw them at home on dad's lap top.
My course of action has been criticised by Ex DH.
WWYD? Nothing, speak to the parents, speak to the school or social services?

You are right to inform the school.

Porn has been around for a long time and children have come across it - either by deliberate design or accident. At least it's happened when he's young enough to talk to you. Use it as an opportunity to have an open dialogue with him.

Speak to the school and perhaps use it as an opportunity to talk to your child about consent and relationships.

Definitely leave it in the school's hands. They're trained to deal with the parents effectively and, it goes without saying, the pupil.
I remember this when DC1 was in year 7and had his first look (probably not last, sadly) at porn on the playground. It really sucks, doesn't it? Phones used to be confiscated at the school gates for a time after that but it didn't last long.
It's your Crossing the Rubicon moment, OP. Time for an uncomfortable but necessary talk with your DC who won't unsee that. I remember sitting down and talking openly to DC1 about sex, intimacy vs. porn and just driving the point home that pornography (sexual orientation is a moot point here) is NOT some sort of guideline as to how to treat another human being. I tried to be as delicate as possible. It was a tough conversation but so worth having... I say it was tough only because I didn't want to have to discuss this stuff with DC. Our parents didn't have to deal with this shitstorm called 'online porn'. It's toxic for society. We just sweep it under the carpet. But that's for another thread.
Good luck, OP!

"Honestly, I think it's fairly normal for young boys (and girls) to see porn. It used to be magazines stuffed into hedges. "

And that can't be helped, but a Parent etc should have those types of material on lockdown.

"What is it you think social services will do ? "

They would make sure that this is accidental and explain to the Father that allowing your child to look at this stuff is now classed as a form of sexual and emotional abuse. They would explain to the child why he shouldn't show it to others etc.

However, It should be the School who it is reported to and they will deal with it via Safeguarding policies.