To leave my twins in their cots until 2pm?

[TammySwansonTwo]

The last couple of days my twins have decided they don’t want their usual nap (usually about 2 hours, although that’s only been for the last month or so - before that they rarely napped but I’ve gotten used to it!). Instead they’re shouting, yelling, jumping up and down, refusing to lie down. They have at least now mainly gone quiet with the occasional yell, bang and slam.

If they’re not crying, is it wrong to leave them in there?!

God I hope not... I do this all the time with my twins. Leave them be unless they are screaming their heads off! You need the time more than anything!

Actually- if they are awake and complaining I give them books to read in their cots.... keeps them happy for 20 mins or so.

Good grief no it’s fine.

I had 5 kids and always put them down for 2 hours got play or sleep. Up to them. If they were tired they slept if not they played.

Either way I got that break to fresh up and do jobs or rest.

Toddlers had room play. Same principle you play with your toys for 2 hours. Much better then tele.

I can just hear my grandson stirring. He decided to sleep.

Life saving

Ah, at this point books are only interesting to them as missiles or food, try as I might. They’re almost 17 months and I’m hoping they get on board with books soon!

Oh to add 2 hours was the sleep time. Got play awake was until they got bored which was usually after 1 hour but sometimes nearer two.

But if they’re bored and want to come out they will cry, and I wouldn’t leave them if they were crying. Just trying to maintain their routine and hope this phase passes!

You do realise that it's only a matter of time before they learn to climb out, don't you?

Totally it does depend on the child. Some kids are better then others at amusing themselves but if they were distressed then no way leave to cry.

Could you do more physical activities in the morning and put them down after lunch? They all do drop naps but it’s young at their age as they then get so tired at tea time.

We used books, toys, toys starched to the cot?

peng

It was fine for my children as I could hear them chatting and playing happily. It depends on your child really.

Yes, to me it seems it.

But then I don't have twins, and always stayed with mine until they were asleep (still do at night with 4yo)

If they're happy then it's hardly being cruel.

Yes, of course I’m aware they will learn to climb out - I will cross that bridge when I come to it!

Before Christmas they stopped napping at all, it was so difficult - but most of January they’ve had a long nap after lunch which has saved my sanity some days. I’m really hoping this is a blip and not another nap ban.

And I wasn’t suggesting leaving them in there for two hours, I posted at 1pm. I’ve never ever left them to cry, and wouldn’t.

Any way to put them in separate rooms so they don't get each other going?

One of them lies awake for up to an hour at night, just chatting away to himself - he seems to have a much higher threshold for boredom than I do! I used to sit with them until they were asleep but they don’t seem to need it now. Obviously if they are distressed I would go in.

No, sadly no way to separate them - although they are used to sleeping through the other making noise, which is lucky!

It's fine. They're happy. Even if they don't sleep you are all having a rest.

I think carry on and see what happens but I always think kids are like dogs and need exercise. Lots of running around during the morning either at play group, swimming or garden. Most children will nap after a good physical session. Maybe up this op?

If they are happy in there then fine.

DS plays blue murder if left in for more than a minute or two so no way I could do it with him.

I wouldn't leave them for two hours if they're not asleep. 30-45 minutes max, and only if they seem reasonably happy.

I always do this, they’re way too young not to nap in the day. My 2.4year old still gets put down at 12 most days, he may play with toys or books quietly but usually he goes to sleep after a while.

My two year old goes up to her cot after lunch, sometimes she sleeps, sometimes she doesn’t but she doesn’t cry, she looks at a book or chats to her teddies. Sometimes she’s up there a while, it’s fine.

Oh I do this in the morning. My 4yo and 18mo share a room and chat away to each other. I leave them to it whilst I have a doze with the baby monitor on. Until my eldest comes in to tell me his brother’s done a poo and it smells

Oh and I notice the days we’ve been out all day or he’s been at the childminders and he hasn’t napped, he’s in a foul mood come tea time and has a disturbed night. My eldest dropped his naps at 3.5.