In being terrified of death?

[bummymummythefirst]

Not mine so much. I've not really cared anything much about my life until ds was born.

The thought of either of my parents dying can be very disabling at times. I get so panicked just thinking about it. I know it sounds ridiculous but I honestly don't know if I'll be able to cope with the grief.

Is this something other people think?

Ds or dh dying aren't on my radar yet for some reason. But I have no doubt that if anything happened to ds it would be over for me.

I've even started to get terrified and cry about the thought of our dog dying. I'm not depressed, I'm just over thinking scenarios where loved ones die and then getting horribly upset about it.

I don't have any access to counselling, I don't know what to do. It's starting to invade too much of my life.

Sweetheart. It’s not ridiculous to be scared of death. We are all in the same boat. There are two certainties in life. Birth and death.

But if the fear of death is taking over your daily life and you have no access to counselling, do you have a GP you can go to? They will be able to give you the support if you need it.

Im terrified of death as I had an abortion. You're not alone op x

I’m terrified of DH’s death since he had a seizure the day before DS’s birth. I have just stopped checking DS’s breath every second as he passed the 6 months mark (but he sleeps in my room in his bed with absolutely NOTHING but a sensor under his mattress). My parents live overseas and I’m terrified of not being there. And all of that despite taking sertraline for PND.

You’re definitely not alone.

5yo DD stopped breathing a few weeks ago. DH had to ressucitate her while we were waiting for the emergency services. Longest minutes of my life.
I am terrified of something happening to the children.

Notburpees, that's terrifying. How is your daughter now?

@NotBurpeesAgain that must have been horrific. Did they know why?

@Myheartbelongsto I'm sorry. I've have too, I think it's definitely a contributing factor.

@AnnaL82 my family life overseas too. It's made the fear so much worse.

My mum died when I was 28.

Before she died I'd have said the same as you.

When she was diagnosed as terminally ill all I could think about was being with her as much as possible. When she died it was the worst day of my life. You just go into autopilot when this stuff happens, you survive.

But she's been gone 8 years now and life goes on without her. I am happy. I think of her all the time, and mostly without sadness or longing.

Myheart it was encephalitis. She stayed in hospital for a week. They think it was a complication of chicken pox (she had caught it three weeks before).

My mother just died on Sunday. I'd been camped out since Tues in her room. Sleeping on a camp bed in the bathroom. I was there when she died. She was elderly and it was very peaceful. My dad died years ago.

I do think if it's taking over your life and becoming obsessive you need to speak to a health professional.

Are you working? Do you have plenty of things to occupy you?