To be disappointed?

[ladyjam]

DC3 is 8mo and we agreed (mutual decision) that he would be our last one. I am very happy with 3, and feel that my family is complete.

However, my period was due last Tuesday and when it hadn't arrived by Saturday, I'd pretty much convinced myself that I was pregnant. I got a bit excited and spent the weekend daydreaming about what it might be like with a 4th child.

So this morning after the school run, I popped into the chemist and bought a test and almost ran home to do it, only to find that my period had started.

I know we have agreed to stick at 3, and I know that DH will not budge on that, and I wouldn't ask him to. (It took over a year to convince him to ttc DS3!)

But AIBU to be slightly disappointed?

Course not. You feel how you feel and that’s okay

Of course you're not being unreasonable, but your husband isn't unreasonable, either. This experience also doesn't mean you actually want to have another child. Pregnancy "scares" can and do wage war with our emotions.

My only advice is that you tell your husband how you feel, and if you BOTH agree that you don't want another child, then you must figure out a way to prevent another pregnancy with certainty so you don't have to ride this roller coaster again. Perhaps him having a vasectomy or you getting your tubes tied would be a smart move.