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AIBU?

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to ask MIL to uncover SIL in DDs christening photo

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Laudaud · 30/04/2007 15:45

Spent weekend at MILs - she has fallen out with SIL and has gone as far as to say she hates her and wants to have nothing more to do with her. To make her point she has covered up SIL (DDs godmother)in a photo DH and I gave her of the family at DDs christening. Piece of paper was not just placed on the outside of the photo but under the glass .

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powder28 · 30/04/2007 15:47

Why, what did she do?

oranges · 30/04/2007 15:47

why don't you draw a stick figure on the piece of paper?

powder28 · 30/04/2007 15:48

lol @ oranges

MrsBadger · 30/04/2007 15:48

her house, her pic, her decision

I'd stay well clear tbh.

powder28 · 30/04/2007 15:50

Then draw some devils horns on it as well

hippmummy · 30/04/2007 15:57

LOL at powder and oranges!
agree it's her house - she can obviously do as she likes.
But isn't this a bit weird? Why have the photo up in that state? Is she just trying to make a point?
Is your DD a baby? If so I'd leave MIL to her bizarre behaviour. If DD is old enough to question it I would ask your MIL to move the photo away.

hayes · 30/04/2007 15:57

when I split up with my xh I was so upset to hear that a picture of me in my ex sis in law kitchen had a grannie smith sticker over the top of my face, her hairdresser told me (well she was my friend)

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Laudaud · 30/04/2007 16:04

we did say she can have it whatever way she wants when we're not there but when we visit we don't need to be confronted with her pettiness and small mindedness. The granny smith sticker over MILs face might add nice balance to the photo

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hayes · 30/04/2007 16:07

you know it still makes me laugh...this happened around 7 years ago and I like to think the stickers are still there (yes everytime someone ate an apple they would put another one on top!)

I think your MIL is being really petty and childish, she would be better off not having the picture on show at all in my opinion.

chocolattegirl · 30/04/2007 16:08

It's a bit immature but I suppose it's her house.

My family don't display things like christening/wedding/graduation pictures in our houses (well apart from my sister and she is getting divorced, so that's not a good omen!). My parents didn't have their wedding pic on the wall for years. They probably forgot to put them back after decorating one time or didn't get around to putting them up in the first place. I only knew what their pics looked like from visiting my Nan who had all the family pics on her sideboard.

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Laudaud · 30/04/2007 16:12

there are lots of photos of SIL with her husband on display - it is just this one that has been defaced. SIL announced she is getting divorced and MIL thinks the sun shines out of SILs husbands ass. He has had minimum contact with MIL and FIL (who died last year)so never had the opportunity to upset them.

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chocolattegirl · 30/04/2007 16:16

Is SIL her daughter or DIL?

Mind my mum is morally supporting my BIL during his separation from my DSis (think she's written DSis off for now). Funny how things turn out or what side families take.

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Laudaud · 30/04/2007 16:21

SIL is her daughter - she has always blamed SIL for everything.

My family love DH but if there were ever any problems between us they would be there to support me - if it was my fault they would tell me how stupid I am but they wouldn't ever turn their backs on me.

One thing MIL said to me when I talked to her about the situation was "if your left hand offends thee, then cut it off"

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purpleduck · 01/05/2007 14:27

It is weird, but hey! thats Mother in laws for ya!!

zookeeper · 01/05/2007 14:30

shame on her - what sort of example is that for the granndchildren?

some people are just moronic

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Laudaud · 01/05/2007 15:34

DD has a wonderful grandmother in my mum so we will focus on that relationship. DD is only 2 at the moment so it's not a major problem.

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powder28 · 01/05/2007 18:14

laudad, your mil would get on well with my fil. He is also immature and mean, and seems to hate his own family.

powder28 · 01/05/2007 18:16

Zookeeper, I love the word moronic. I must use it when im describing fil.

zookeeper · 01/05/2007 18:59

I know what you mean Powder - it just trips off the tongue doesn't it?

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Laudaud · 02/05/2007 09:11

What about the word 'mentalist' as used by Alan Partridge?
MIL mentioned that FIL and her thought ages ago that SIL needed Pyscho analysing. I told her that I think she is mad.

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ipanemagirl · 02/05/2007 09:25

Ime - inter-family conflict should be left well alone... I know it's hard but it's between them and no outsider if ever thanked for interventions however nobly intended!
On a positive note - phew - it's not your problem!

edam · 02/05/2007 09:40

I wouldn't get involved, tbh, although I'd think it was pretty mean and would probably really upset her dd.

When my father remarried and had another baby, my grandmother put lots of photos of my new baby sister, father and stepmother up, and all the photos of me and my sister disappeared. Which was very hurtful. We and our mother (her ex-DIL) were the ones who took care of her when she got old and vulnerable, actually, not the people whose photos she kept on the wall.

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