WhatsApp group

[Amelia1764]

I've been included in a WhatsApp group set up by my four sisters in law. The original purpose was to organise a party for our father in law. My ideas were disregarded and the one date that I said didn't suit us for the event was the date that it got organised for. Sisters in law always 'vote' together so my views are not taken into account.

We are married to five brothers.

I don't get on particularly well with these ladies. That's fine as we don't see each other often (maybe five times a year or so).

But now there is banter on the WhatsApp group and regular updates, etc. These ladies have really bitched about each other over the years so it's odd to now see them being so friendly to each other. I think its affecting my mental health - I'm constantly thinking about what has been said and how they never say my ideas are good but then gush over each other's ideas.

I'd love to exit the group but I don't want them to think I'm being childish or to be left out of the loop.

Notifications are turned off so I just check in once or twice a day.

Not sure what I'm even asking here... but anyone in a similar situation?

Not been in your situation before sorry.
But if you said that date didn't suit and they chose it does that mean you are moving things to attend or won't be going?
As if you aren't going you could leave the group on they basis you aren't involved in an event you aren't attending.

...so I just check in once or twice a day.

Don't do that, then! If you don't want to make a statement by leaving the group - and I agree that leaving would probably raise eyebrows/hackles - then just stop reading it so often. Once a week is more than adequate; if there's something important to tell/ask you, then they can text or ring you.