To go grey before my mum?

[Joskar]

Or maybe Wwyd?

My mother is in her 70s and has never left her hair undyed. She goes to the hairdresser every three weeks to keep it coloured. I'm on mat leave and have no spare cash for hairdresser dye jobs. I've used a box dye before but I went off them as the last one I did the colour was appalling and I looked like Morticia's dumpy cousin. Plus then the regrowth wasn't good. I was using Colourfresh which washes out slowly and it was a bit nicer but you have to do it every month or so. I haven't had a chance since before the baby was born 4 months ago. Possibly grey hair accelerates through lack of sleep because I've got a fair bit of silver in there now. My mother is horrified that I'm even considering not dying my hair.

Do I just leave it and embrace the grey?
Do I submit myself to a future of monthly dye jobs? For 30 odd years?!

When do you go grey? How do you go grey?

I am at an age that grey hair is the norm, of my friends that have embraced grey it hasn’t meant spending less money. Keeping up a short hair cut and layering the grey is more expensive that a home dye. Some have highlighted the grey/blonde in until the grey has reached the lengths. I have a small amount of grey at 50 but it’s been like that for 10 years, I may never go fully grey if I follow after my dad.

Mid 40s here, started going grey at 18. I can't afford professional colour and keep forgetting to box dye. Also have long term shoulder injury so can't do it myself now. I'd rather it wasn't grey but it is and I'm running with it now. It does make me feel a bit crap sometimes though.

I found my first grey hair at 16. In my early 40s I stopped dyeing and haven't done it for over 20 years. Women much younger than me compliment me on my colour but my friends go on colouring their hair.

OP I suspect your mum wants you to carry on colouring your hair because your grey makes her feel old. If you're happy, that's tough. It's your hair.

At 51 I couldn’t maintain the roots anymore (every 2 weeks I was doing the roots) I went from dark brown had highlights added am now white where the highlights are growing out.

Started going grey at 17

I’ve stopped colouring my hair, it’s so dark and I just can’t afford to keep it up now I love the natural colour! Embrace the grey hairs!

Oh and I’m mid 30s

I think a stripe of grey at the roots looks worse than natural greying streaks
For me, this ^ is why I don’t dye my hair.

Also, as a teacher who is constantly trying to get the msg across to children to feel happy in their own skin because they are all wonderful as they are.... well, I think I’d feel a bit of a hypocrite.

Each to their own though. You do whatever you feel best OP.

Just look at Paul McCartney. Just look at him. That's your mum, that is

It's bloody obvious it's dyed. Don't mind your mum, do whatever you are happy with. My dad think it's hilarious my brother has less hair than him. I still remember my grandad pointing at his dad, and then at my dad, then laughing at my brother and saying he'd be bald by 20. Why is grey hair any different?

Ach, no. She doesn't look like Paul McCartney. She looks very well. I understand that she takes care of herself and thinks it's important to look nice (she never wears make up but has good clothes, stays slim and fit etc) but I just feel quite despondent at the thought of the faff for the next X number of years. On the other hand I don't want to look drab. If I thought I could do the whole gamine, grey, effortlessly elegant thing I would go grey in a heartbeat. My natural hair colour is quite nice. It's a reddish brown with dark gold bits. It's very thick and curly too. I don't think I could pull of that very short cool-grey thing. I feel like I need warm tones to make me less haggard. And sleep too but hair dye is easier to come by.

It's interesting that there's so many folk are saying to go grey. My impression is that very few people under 40 or even 50 leave their hair undyed.

Don't dye your hair spend the money on a holiday or something else as a treat. Men don't seem to have the same pressure to dye their hair as women. You often see a man with grey hair and a woman with dyed hair, it's looks ridiculous !