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for being annoyed by ex DH's girlfriend's conversation topics and his attitude?

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Purpleparrot · 30/04/2007 13:47

My 8 year old DS visits his dad for a weekend once a fortnight from 6pm on Friday until 6pm on a Sunday. He never phones or emails or has any contact outwith this contact with his son which I find bizarre anyway. on the 14th of April he was dur at 6 but rang me at 6.05pm to say he could not have his son as his GF was ill and needed to go to hospital. Fair enough, of course so I cancelled my weekend plans and had our DS instead. He never rescheduled or contacted his son to explain etc. He picked him up as usual this Friday gone - and when I collected our DS he was really upset. He told me that although the GF had taken him to the cinema with friends and he other friends round to play on the Sunday, his father had not spent any time with him at all. he didn't want to go to the cinema and he wasn't even at home when I picked DS up. He said his dad went out to the pub around lunchtime and he hadn't seen him since. Surely this is unreasonable considering he has had no contact with our DS since March!! Surely he should be cramming as much time with his son into the weekend as he can manage!

During the weekend the GF gave my son a wonderful description of why she was ill. She had an injection in herarm to put her to sleep, then a tube put down her throat to remove yellowish stones from her stomach... not sure he needs to know this actually but hey-ho...

She then goes on to tell him that her and daddy are trying to have a little baby boy!! Does he really need to know that?? Surely wait until a pregnancy has been confirmed and she is past the 3 months stage and tell him he is going to be a big brother. He's only 8 and unless they plan on discussing the birds and bees then I feel it is a dodgy topic of conversation.

Grr... rant over!

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LieselVentouse · 30/04/2007 13:52

She sounds a bit thick to be honest - but then not half as thick as DH.

wannaBeWhateverIWannaBe · 30/04/2007 13:55

hmmm, your ex sounds like an arse tbh. as for the gf though - as she's not yet a parent she maybe doesn't quite have a grasp on what is and isn't interesting conversation to an 8 year old, and maybe she's just excited about the thought of ttc - if they've only just started she may not have thought about the fact it could take a while. I actually had a friend whose parents told her that they were hopefully going to have a baby and due to fertility problems a pregnancy never occurred. but sometimes people just don't think that children absorb this info in a different way to adults.

Purpleparrot · 30/04/2007 14:27

They actually have a ten month old daughter together so I would expect her to have a bit of insight into pregnancy etc. They have friends with children of the same age as our DS and my ex DH has nieces a little older so it's not as if she has no experience of children at all. One of the mothers is even a school doctor!!

Perhaps I need to make more allowances for her but still... before I was a mother I had enough common sense to know that some subjects are just not suitable for children!

It is usually just one thing after another with them and I have very little tolerance left for a man who makes no effort with his son, has paid no child support for almost 4 years, has bounced his first 3 payments scheduled by the CSA - who I only contacted in December because I was so fed up with his inability to take responsibility - and who keeps dragging out our divorce because he refuses to acknowledge that he owes me thousands of pounds!!! And I have no respect for her as a mother who broke up a family, took the pieces for herself and thinks that it is fine for the father of her child not to take responsibility for his other child.

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BandofMothers · 30/04/2007 14:30

Why does he have visitation if he's not interested??(Don't want that to sound mean but just wonder)

FioFio · 30/04/2007 14:32

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LadyMacbeth · 30/04/2007 14:33

What a strange thing to do... 'try' for a certain gender! Let's hope they're not 'disappointed' if they end up with another girl . I'm with Liesel on this one...

helenhismadwife · 01/05/2007 22:14

I can see why you ex is an ex, and his gf sounds like a daft bint. I would be tempted to say something to ex.

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