AIBU to resent my SO for his laziness with cooking?

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My fiance is the fussiest eater. He says he doesn't like any fruit and only likes carrots and sweet corn for veg. He will eat potatoes. He's fussy with meat as well, only really likes chicken when it's mainly processed and will barely touch red meat. It means 9/10 we're eating different meals and his favourite is anything beige that just goes in the oven. He knows he's fussy and will try more things but he's so picky and is reluctant to cook a decent meal himself. He just moaned at me for making him peel his own potatoes and carrots. He is 26 in April and it's really stressing me out because his mum was a lazy cook which is why he's like it but he seems reluctant to change. Has anyone else had this and been able to get past it? I'm ashamed to say it almost makes me embarrassed to be with him

I'd just cook for yourself for a few weeks and leave him to it... But I couldn't put up with that in a partner I'm afraid!

Get him involved with making your own bread. That’s quite a macho thing and may help him get used to doing food prep. Then move on to some of the ‘beige’ things he likes to eat, but making them from scratch. Homemade chicken escalopes for instance are a million times nicer than the rubbish in the shops; home made potato wedges (especially if you use sweet potatoes) and you could even try more technical things like making your own breakfast muffins.

You never know he might catch the cooking bug!

YANBU, it's difficult. I love tasty, spicey food and there's not much I won't eat! When I met DP 7 years ago he would only eat takeaway pizza, sausages, fish fingers, carrots, broccoli, frozen roast potatoes and a few tinned foods. He's progressed to eating chicken and will tolerate pork now (although he prefers chicken). I've weaned him off frozen roasts and taught him to cook his own. He also now peels and chops carrots rather than buying ready prepped ones. I pointed out it works out much cheaper and that was enough of an incentive for him! He still won't entertain the idea of anything with onions, garlic (or basically any type of flavour).

I cook for myself most of the time, although we do go out for a pub meal once a week. The goal for this year is to try to get him to eat homemade pizza. It's really slow progress though and if I want to go and eat at a nice restaurant I have to go with a friend as he's so fussy with food.

Obviously he has many positive qualities that make up for the picky eating, so we somehow make it work!

My husband is fussy and very lazy with cooking and if I don't cook for him will just buy a tin of big soup and is very happy with that. However he is great in so many other ways that I don't mind at all.

He doesn't sound that lazy, I never peel potatoes or carrots

My husband wasn’t quite this bad but two things led to a change...eating out more at places that did nice food (we would Save and make a big deal of it as a date night) so could taste nice things and children as felt had to model eating fruit etc. Realise the latter is a dramatic solution though and is not a reason to have a child so maybe just go to nice restaurants!