AIBU TO QUIT MY JOB BEFORE...

[pampam12]

Having anything else lined up or even know what I want to do?

I changed my regular username, I am a regular poster/commenter but I don't want to be outing. I also need some fresh, unbiased opinions

Basically I hate my job to the point I just dread going there. The pressure, my boss, the clients.... etc. I recently tried to leave but I didn't get that job (very specific job, a lot of competition-around 9 people on a single opening). I am obviously disappointed with a hint of depression (haven't been sleeping well etc)

AIBU to consider putting in my notice (I have to give them a month) and just figure out what I want to do? There seem to be no jobs going around. The idea of starting a business seems nice, I might have the budget for it but again- I have no clue what I want except the idea of opening a beauty salon

Are there any stories that ended up well when you quit your job without having anything lined up?

I did this 4 years ago and it was the best thing I ever did. I was relatively high up in the NHS and left with nothing to go to. As long as you are prepared to do anything if needs must you'll be fine.

I left with no plans etc and actually got a job in Waitrose in the short term ( 6-8 weeks). I'd been unhappy for a long time but didn't realise how unhappy until I actually left. In fairness DH was behind me all the way and said he would divorce me if I retracted my resignation. I am the main breadwinner and we couldn't have survived on his salary.

I got a position in private consultancy within 2 months, with consultants I'd previously worked with about 10 years before. I'm now 4 years down the line and know that if I hadn't made the decision to leave with nothing to go to I'd still be there procrastinating! I love my job again now and it's what I trained for as opposed to all the bureaucracy I was dealing with in the NHS and very little hands on patient care.

Good luck 😉

The idea of your own business might sound nice indeed, the reality is very different.

Wow! I'm honestly so amazed at the power of your comments. Thanks everyone, I analysed every single comment. I'll give it by the end of March, so I don't have to go in my savings and take it from there

But how do you manage to hate it less? To just go there, do your job go home and be happy? Am I being a snowflake here?

I also want to say I feel less lonely now. I do have a wonderful family and a lovely partner but it was so good getting fresh opinions on this

I left a job i'd been in for 5 years (a long time for me) with nothing else to go to, I'd already been job hunting for a few months with no luck. Within my 4 week notice period I'd interviewed for and received three job offers, it was amazing how much fell into my lap once I could be open and active about going for interviews.

Only quit job if you can afford to be without a salary whilst you look.
Also references, who have you nominated,will they write a fair reference
It’s always easier to look for work whilst still employed

Get a home routine that works for you, pjs on, hair masque etc to relax
Read to unwind, find something that unwinds you

It's good you have so much support. I know it's scary and you can feel no-one else has ever done it and it's a foolish thing to do. But I really don't believe it is.

If you can afford it do it! Nothing is more important than you, your wellbeing and healthy mental health. Can you register with an agency and do locus work in the interim (after having some well earned space and time to smell the roses to get your equilibrium back)

Good luck

Locum

Are there any stories that ended up well when you quit your job without having anything lined up?

I quit my very stressful job 5 years ago on a whim right after getting the promotion I'd wanted for ages and set up my own business - I've never looked back. If you feel that your job is affecting your health, then you're not unreasonable at all to want to try something new, you just need to be brave and see where life takes you....good luck!

I did it five years ago. Realised my mental and physical health were at risk.

Took in a lodger, bought and sold furniture, painted other bits of furniture for six months and just about survived financially. Took my employer to a tribunal and they settled on six months salary out of court so I ended up better off.

Saw my current job advertised and started six months to the day. No regrets.

I don't think you do hate it less. When I was driving into work thinking if I crashed the car - just a little bit, then I could justify a day off, I knew it was time to leave. As 'twoo' said nothing is more important than your well being. Money is always a worry but you cut your cloth. Life is too short !

I agree with Derelict.. 9people for 1 role isn’t competitive. We’ve just advertised for a fairly specific job and had 65application. Interviewing 20.

If you can financially afford it and your mental health is genuinely being affected then quit. But be prepared for a hard fight back into work. I was in exactly the same position a few years ago and ended up out of work for almost 9months and it was hard to get back in. It always looks better on a cv / application if you’re working too. But again, don’t compromise your mental health

@RavenLG very specific job, wasn't only an interview, I can't say more without being too outing. It was 9 only for the interview. It was really tough. And I am so so disappointed

I was planning on this once, but was mid 20s, living with parents and the only financial commitment was to pay back a loan (to my parents). I had their support too. My job was out of town and so getting to job centre etc was difficult. This was about 20 yes ago so not as much was done online.
As it turns out I managed to get a temporary job anyway so left with a job to go to. My supervisor thought I was daft to move from permanent to temp. She told me so, but the job I was in was not permanent to me as I would have left anyway.
The temp post would have lasted about 8 months, but I got a full time post elsewhere about 4 months in.
As others have said would agency would be suitable. If you explain you are looking now ready for when your contract ends in March, they may be able to line something up. It also looks better on a cv to have completed the contract instead of quitting just before the end.
I found it did make it easier going in to work knowing that the days left are limited. Depending on the type of work you are looking at, register on any appropriate websites as you could complete an application at a time when it suits you.

pampam all the best with your decision, go with your gut. I have done this twice, first time I had a breakdown, off sick for months, then finally resigned and retrained in a new career, next job I resigned, thought I'd get a job easily and it took me 18 months. Both times me and dh managed due to his income and some savings. If I had my time again I would still do the same both resignations led to happier jobs. Both times I was able to go for other jobs with a 'clean slate' getting good references. All the best, life is so short

Leave with a clear plan so that depression just doesn't fill the hole you make. But yes, crack on with making your life better, just avoid airy fairy ideas, sinking savings into a business without a thoroughly researched business plan, or any dodgy rip off schemes. Virtual job hunting helps I think - throw your search wide and then narrow down the types of opportunities that interest you. Good luck on the journey.

You're not being a snowflake,not at all. You are not defined by your job. You do not like this job and you will find a new one. It may take a little while. But you will find one that suits you better. 💐

Can.you afford to take a job with less hours. Going pt made my unbearable job much more easy to deal with

I did, a while ago. I lined up some training courses - could have done a 3-6 month admin course, but I was single and managed a year. I then was able to work whilst working out what I wanted to do in the long run. It meant a cut in salary as I started again at the bottom, but it was so, so worth it.

Do you have a backup for earning, whilst you jobhunt? Are they recruiting at your local supermarket? Can you get some shifts there? Or you mention a beauty salon: are you a trained hairdresser? Mobile hairdressers do not need a salon and all of the overheads, and are like hens teeth where I am.

Once I had decided I was going, the job I hated became a lot easier. I only had to put up with it for a few weeks, and I got a new sense of energy from that. Hope that you sort something.