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To expect something on my birthday?

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MoreSpamThanGlam · 30/04/2007 13:18

Its today. Dh took car to work, have no food in, had quite a few texts and cards from friends. A card from Dh with the offer to come home at lunchtime "to spend time together". Have not had present as we are so skint.

But to just ask - shall I come home early? (we have a 6 month old, 8 yr old, 12 yr old)like that is a gift. He didnt even say, Im coming home early, just a blase question...

He didnt even tidy up after himself before he left.

He had all weekend to "spend time with me" but sat on the playstation, whilst i was in the other room watching shite on tv with the baby.

Im really miserable and feel very alone.

I must be a pile of cack for this to be happening...

OP posts:
southeastastra · 30/04/2007 13:21

happy birthday to you
happy birthday to you
happy birthday dear morespamthanglam
happy birthday to you

MoreSpamThanGlam · 30/04/2007 13:24

thanks

OP posts:
Lovecat · 30/04/2007 13:29

Happy Birthday

Men can be deeply insensitive gits at times... this sounds like one of them!

You are so not a pile of cack! Don't think that way!

Can you possibly get a babysitter (I know it's v. short notice) and go down the pub for a half, just to have some time together?

southeastastra · 30/04/2007 18:01

do you feel any better now?

KatieandBB · 30/04/2007 18:12

Happy Birthday morespamthanglam

I cannot prize my dh from the office for anything, so am jealous

Hope it gets better later xx

SuGaRCoAteDPoiSOn · 30/04/2007 18:17

happy birthday!! you are absolutely not a pile of cack.. he's just being an insensitive twat!

do something lovely for yourself at a time convenient to you and make him look after the littlies while you do it

hbbell · 30/04/2007 18:40

Skint check out the back of the sofa for some cash maybe enough for a bottle of wine and a soak in the bath with the wine;:: maybe guilt him into making it up to you later... p.s drink wine not soak in it

starsinhereyes · 30/04/2007 18:52

Happy birthday - I hope that it gets better for you xx

newgirl · 01/05/2007 11:37

i dont think blokes are as in to birthdays as we are

now its after the day id tell him about how you felt - im sure he will be gutted

i had to talk to my dh about this years ago and it really helped and now we plan something in advance and dd1 helps make a cake - not expensive, but effort!

FiveFingeredFiend · 01/05/2007 11:47

Course blokes are into birthdays What a CROCK! He's lazy didn't remember and you must tell him that this makes you feel like your not important enough to remember.

They remember whats important, a meeting on thursday, a football game, out with the lads 3 weeks next saturday.

Its not good enough. Tell him Kick up bottom time.

hbbell · 01/05/2007 11:59

Hi hope you are feeling better today

newgirl · 01/05/2007 13:47

disagree fff - my dh not bothered about getting presents/etc at all although i do make an effort

neither is my dad - he says he has everything he wants/needs and would rather we spent money on kids

im just saying its not all doom and gloom for op - he may have no idea shes that bothered - though im sure he does now!

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