WIBU to turn in a sibling...

[Confrontayshunme]

Background: I am an only child, and my husband has two siblings. My dad has a younger brother who is homeless (we think), and has several warrants for his arrest and outstanding fines for everything from drugs, robbery, assault, etc.

DH and I were discussing that my dad felt that he would have to turn in his brother to the sheriff (in America) if he turned up. He has been missing/gone to another state/possibly dead for almost 10 years now, so it is basically just hypothetical.

My husband said "I would never turn in my own brother for anything." Maybe it's because I have no siblings, but even if it was a parent, aiding and abetting a fugitive, is a crime in America. It was shocking because my husband is a rule follower and has literally never lied.

WIBU to turn in a sibling you know is a criminal? Not just like paperwork or not paying taxes, but multiple crimes against people and property.

If I was close to them I'd make sure they had legal advice and all the support I could give, and either turn them in or try to get them to go in voluntarily. Helping them to run doesn't solve the problem and the only way to do that is to face up to it even if that means prison.

However, if it was one of my sisters I might murder them and pretend it was self defence, what with them being violent criminals and all.(I think I'm joking, but I'm not entirely sure!).

It depends on the situation - but I'd make it clear to them I felt they should hand themselves in and that I couldn't help them if it meant my breaking the law.

The op doesn't say he's been dead for 10 years, it says he could be since they have no contact with him.

000bourneFarm
Not the OP's fault you can't read simple English.

I asked my folks this very question last year (out of interest - I haven't actually committed any crime )

Hardcore law-and-order, in favour of capital punishment, always do the right thing even though it isn't the right thing for you etc DF was a "almost certainly not" Lefty liberal, touchy feely, therapist DM: "absolutely- I'd still love you because I'm your mother, but the law is the law"

I'll be asking DF to spring me from jail, then

My siblings - if it was violence against a person of some kind, or drug-dealing, then yes. Drug taking - no. Drink-driving - yes. Basically, I d shop anyone for offences that could ruin/end someone else's life.

We told our kids we would always help them if they were in trouble. To me this doesn't mean helping them evade the law in such circumstances as you describe, but encouraging them to face up to the consequences of their actions. So if they were ever to commit a serious crime then yes, I would urge them to turn themselves in and would not help them to become fugitives from the law

Unbelievable how many people on here would only turn a sibling in for violent crime if it was against vulnerable people, women or children.
Surely the life and wellbeing of men is just as valuable!

A lot depends on what the crimes are.

Guess you should perhaps consider it from a different angle. How would you feel if someone sold your child drugs/knocked a family member down whilst drunk driving/raped you/or whatever and then you found out that a family member of the perpetrator knew what they were up to but didn't report it?

No qualms but I’d be frightened of them finding out it was me and hurting me. Very strong and tall man, who has been violent with me. I’m chronically ill and weak.

I think it is difficult for people, who have loving and caring siblings to understand when others siblings are not.

000bourneFarm The truth is that we don't know whether he is dead or not. In America, he could've gotten a bus and travelled 2000 miles away from where we last saw him. I check death registries and unidentified deaths occasionally (and google quite a lot), but we have never found anything about him. The last contact my dad had with him was about 10 years ago. He tried to convince him to go to rehab and then turn himself in so the judge would hopefully be more lenient. He would be about 60 now.

So, no, it is not bollocks.