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AIBU to ask for help to survive tomorrow?

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Prusik · 04/02/2018 10:10

Ok so firstly, I'm definitely being unreasonable, I should have confidence in my ability to handle this but I don't.

DH goes back to work tomorrow after paternity leave. I'll be left to fend for myself and my two boys. First time alone.

12 month old ds, who is generally full of fussiness at the moment and nearly three week old newborn.

I've got containers ready for tomorrow to prepare in advance breakfast and lunch for me and ds and then dinner for Ds (I'll eat later with dh). We'll go to supermarket later to buy some bits in. Also ordered a sealed cup for hot drinks just incase Ds manages to get hold quicker than I can react.

Apart from that, I'm lost. I'm nervous about leaving the house because every time we've done so, one has kicked off.

Any tips, advice or suggestions? Anyone around to hold my hand tomorrow?

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ChristianGreysAnatomy · 04/02/2018 17:21

God it's horrible when they walk out of the door and you are left on your own. It's just a shitty feeling.

BUT you just get on and Do It. Because you have no choice and also because there is no one in the universe who can look after those two particular children better than you can.
You will be ok.

Personally I'd get out of the house sooner rather than later because it's a small triumph even if it also goes horribly wrong. But others clearly have a different view!

Disclaimer - my youngest was 6 weeks before I had a whole day on my own with two. So, respect.

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Prusik · 04/02/2018 17:48

Unfortunately my friends toddler is likely to be napping when I have to put Ds for a nap. I might just have to wing it.

DH has just cooked some food up for me for tomorrow and the next few days so I'll pack it into tubs shortly.

I think positivity is going to be the key but it'll be hard to keep positive in some ways. I'll try my best though

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Prusik · 04/02/2018 20:57

So DH has gone massively overboard for tomorrow. He's cut up cucumber, carrots, tomatoes. Made a lasagne (??), cooked double lots of dinner (roast beef, potatoes with a crazy amount of veg - enough veg to last about four days!!), and some turkey. I don't think me and DS will go hungry tomorrow! I've packed portions up into my containers, had a shower and even managed to have a nap in the armchair with newborn (with DH supervising to make sure he stays safe).

I think I'm as prepared as I'll ever be!

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Prusik · 05/02/2018 09:01

The boys are easing me in gently today. 12 month old had a really rough night so is having a lie in. So it's all quiet.

I'm washed and dressed, have had breakfast, finished tidying the kitchen and run the hoover over. Nice and chilled so far and a friend is coming at 9.30

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DoveBlue · 05/02/2018 09:22

Good luck OP. You can do it. They will be fine even if there are a few tears.
Ps your DH sounds lovely!

AmethystRaven · 05/02/2018 09:26

Dressed and hoovered?! I think you've got this Wink

Mrsjellybum · 05/02/2018 12:12

How has your morning been OP

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Prusik · 05/02/2018 12:14

Oh god, it was literally a two minute hoover to pick up the worst.

Friend came with biscuits and cake which is amazing and was here so I could put DS down for a nap while she held baby (as suggested by pp).

DS is napping now so we're on the home stretch. I might be tempted to go for a walk later. MAYBE. probably not

The tupperware containers with food have been a god send and my tea that DH made at 7am this morning and put in my new cup is STILL HOT. Not even warm, but hot!! Currently snuggling newborn and listening to kerrang radio Grin I feel like this might all be ok.

@DoveBlue - DH is pretty lovely. He has his moments like deciding to clear out the loft last week and taking more than his fair share of lie ins and naps Hmm but overall he's a gem.

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wornoutboots · 05/02/2018 12:30

be nice to yourself. Your only job really is to keep all 3 of you alive until your husband gets home. You are doing great

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Prusik · 05/02/2018 17:07

Having a slight freak out about whether my milk has disappeared on me! Early dinner for Ds who was in meltdown mode but another half hour and dh gets home. Roll on quarter to six!

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Anotherdayanotherdollar · 05/02/2018 17:15

Hope your first day went well!

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Prusik · 05/02/2018 17:24

I'm literally counting it down now. DS is tired and grumpy so DH can bath him as soon as he gets in

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PotatoesPastaAndBread · 05/02/2018 17:34

Hang in there!

I've only got one and I'm counting down to DH coming home. Well done you with two!

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Prusik · 05/02/2018 17:58

Made it. We survived. The last part of the day was hellish but ds is happy now his daddy is home.

Just found out dh is working Saturday but it means he's off on Thursday which is nice. So I'm only on my own Fri and Saturday now for the rest of this week

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BrieAndChilli · 05/02/2018 18:05

I can remember when DH went back to work after DS2 was born. I had DS1 who had just turned 4 the week before, DD who was 2.5 and DS2 who was 4 weeks. I was terrified!

Lucky for me at the time DH worked shifts so I only had to go a couple of days without him home and then he would be on nights for a couple and then off for 4 or 5 days. On the days he wasn’t there I used to stay home mainly and when he was on nights I’d take the kids to the park/toddler groups

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Prusik · 06/02/2018 08:23

Everyone dressed and fed. DH bless him was running around like a blue arsed fly this morning. He's left me a bowl of cereal with milk next to it.

Hopefully mum will be here in about an hour

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