I kind of want to have some sense kicked into me. I know it's ridiculous to be upset about this still.
Six years ago I met a man on OkCupid and we slept together a few times. It lasted for three or four months but wasn't serious at all. I socialised a bit with him as part of his group of friends. We stopped sleeping together but we added each other on Facebook and, since he is a big social media fiend, he kept adding me on all the new social media things that he joined -- Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat etc. So we kept up, vaguely, met up for coffee or a gig once a year or so, he would message me to say happy new year etc.
Fast forward to last year, when somebody at my child's school saw on Facebook that we were mutual friends with this guy. Cue awkward conversation about how we knew each other, etc, suggestions that we should all meet up for a drink. I messaged him to say, and we chatted briefly, leaving it as 'see you soon'. I checked out his Facebook page and it looked as if he had a new girlfriend, and clicked through and nosed around her Instagram etc. I thought that it would be nice to catch up since it had been about a year since we'd seen each other, but I was really snowed under and didn't follow up the suggestion of meeting up.
Then two weeks ago I went to message him about a music event, and realised that he had blocked me on all social media! Facebook, instagram, Twitter, etc. Not just unfriended but actually blocked. I normally check my Twitter unfollowers but hadn't for a couple of months, but when I went back to look, it looked as if he had blocked me a couple of days after we had messaged late last year with all the 'see you soon' crap!
I've sort of wondered -- did he not like having friends in common? Did he see me somehow looking at his girlfriend's page and think it was creepy? Should I not have done that? For a couple of days I was quite upset and kept second-guessing whether I had misstepped or done something wrong that prompted such a strong reaction.
I obviously haven't contacted him and won't, it's entirely his choice to un-friend me and clearly he feels strongly about it if he's blocked me on everything. And also it's not like we really saw each other often and not like he was an important part of my life. So it's kind of fine.
But I'm still upset. I feel a bit yucky that I slept with the kind of person who has that attitude towards people. I feel like there must be something wrong with me to explain it. I don't mind about the friendship (such as it was -- it wasn't a close one) being over, but I'm still upset about having being blocked. It's been weeks now.
AIBU? I kind of know I am. I'd like to know how to get over the yucky feeling.