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AIBU?

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AIBU to think that people don't do this?!

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nearlytime · 03/02/2018 12:19

We're going out with DH's sister and family today. SIL announced that now DN is older she can no longer get away with "making up" stuff for the nursery weekend diary. She has to put what they "really did" because DN is old enough to talk about it now.

I asked her what she used to put and she said things like going to the local farm place (that's what we're doing today, animals to look at, birds of prey, fruit picking in season etc.) and swimming and the park... so she wasn't putting ridiculous things.

This isn't normal is it?

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Crunchymum · 03/02/2018 19:03

The class bear is a reward for having a good week (I think it's a very P.A punishment personally ) and whilst I don't lie, I do take the bloody thing out with the kids.

So whilst we may be planning a super quiet weekend, I end up doing stuff to make it look as though I'm not a complete lazy slattern

kateandme · 03/02/2018 22:40

is this something that's always done/has always been done.i feel so sorry for my and parents if so.so much pressure.
some of the best most rewarding times for me/us as a family was when we did nothing but slobbed together.

RicottaPancakes · 03/02/2018 22:46

Why do they have these books?

ThePinkOcelot · 03/02/2018 22:52

God, that sounds shit! Glad I didn’t have to faff on with that when mine were at nursery.

Realowlette · 04/02/2018 07:02

We have a Nursery book sent home which they and we fill in daily. They tell me what DD has done during the day and I tell them what she's been up to. Some days we've been somewhere 'exciting' other entries might just be 'baking' or 'kind to her brother'. It's optional, but I think it's a nice link between home and Nursery. The same way I like to receive the progress report and I fill in the returns, I want to be included.

seven201 · 04/02/2018 07:30

If we haven't done anything exciting I just talk about dancing around the living room and anything new she's learnt eg new words. I think it's a bit bonkers to go to the effort of making stuff up!

GottadoitGottadoit · 04/02/2018 10:50

Well your SIL is clearly insecure. Whereas you OP, are just so confident in yourself that you can be honest about your weekend.

VladmirsPoutine · 04/02/2018 10:54

God, that sounds shit! Glad I didn’t have to faff on with that when mine were at nursery.

That really made me laugh @ThePinkOcelot. I'm with you on this. It sounds tedious as fuck!

BishopBrennansArse · 04/02/2018 11:01

I'd be so tempted to go in for a bit of creative writing.

Completed initial experiments towards our aim of nuclear fission.

Went to Berlin for dinner in our private jet.

Made arrangements for delivery of our new pet tiger.

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nearlytime · 04/02/2018 14:57

kateandme I don't know. I thought it always happened but this is my first child so no experience!

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Atthebottomofthegarden · 04/02/2018 19:41

We had the class bear first one year. He came to the supermarket, visited the library and went to the park. A couple of other mothers thanked me for this a few weeks later! He came for a second visit later in the year and he had done some exciting weekends, but the vast majority were nothing unusual.

Teddy can always try parachuting out of the window, if it’s a dry day..?!

Love51 · 04/02/2018 19:56

Our childminder had one, but it wasn't popular with parents so she ended up using it very selectively. It came to us with a tiny potty when pfb regressed with potty training.

tillytrotter1 · 05/02/2018 00:03

My Mother eventually discovered that I used to write Excuse Notes for PE lessons when is was bad weather, our playing fields were on the edge of a diabolically windy valley. She was livid, really gave me what for. I was about 43, with two children!

coffeeforone · 05/02/2018 11:55

If I had to do it every weekend I might move stuff about a bit so as not to repeat myself. e.g. we go swimming every Sunday morning, and to the park, then the supermarket most Sunday afternoons - so I might just replace 'swimming' and 'park' with 'painting' and 'farm' or something, so i'm not just repeating myself for every sunday

MsHarry · 05/02/2018 17:48

When my DD was in Reception the teacher wanted us to write something on a post it that your child had achieved. Some parents were writing essays every day. I used to say stuff like " ....has eaten a green vegetable today" so I wasn't lying but I reckon others were.I mean what achievements could they really make on a daily basis!

MsHarry · 05/02/2018 17:52

It is funny though that parents don't think their children will out them. I work with Yr 1 and 2 and the DC always drop the parents in it about holidays taken in term time. One family went to USA(Texas) for a close family wedding, allegedly.Permission was granted by the Headteacher. On their return the DC were eager to tell the class their news in the news sharing time. I asked how the wedding went and they were blank, said they didn't go to a wedding, nobody got married etc. They did however have lots to say about Disney in...Florida!

MissWilmottsGhost · 05/02/2018 18:00

I think it would take more effort to make up that shit every weekend than to actually do something

Luckily, DDs nursery didn't do that sort of thing, and now she is at school she can write her own stuff (and make it up if she wants). I can't be arsed to write in her reading record either, I'd rather spend the time actually reading with her.

laura65988 · 07/02/2018 14:43

That's odd she would lie about this stuff does she feel the need to be a perfect parent or prove herself to nursery I never filled these in what do u say for when u did nothing all weekend ure not going to want to show that off to Nursery sometimes I think it can be nosey as to what u did they can just ask kids at discussion time they don't get the book out and say what they did it'd fine to ask the if they got upto something at weekends but having to write a report to say what u did is to much and u don't have to fill these in it's ure choice but they do read these and make judgements these people are there to watch and study and note things down its called getting it right for every child and now this named person law came in that says anyone involved in the child's care can do what they think is in the child's best interest just like the parent can so lying about what u did is a red flag to them u have to be careful with nursery and schools they will report u in heartbeat now it the law but there's always the kids that need it that get over looked this happened to me and u had social services at my door without warning the next day which scared me school didn't warn me they had phoned they I had mental problems and was struggling proved I wasn't but took me weeks to get rid of them me always chasing them up for appointment so I could be rid of them please be careful with this new law and don't lie about things they think u have something to hide

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