Starting over

[Shouldershrugger]

Hi All. This is the first time I've ever reached out for advice. I'm seriously considering about starting over again. I can't stay in my marriage any longer. I have 3 children, 18,17 and 2. I used to earn good money and when I had my youngest, my husband and I agreed that I would cut down my hours. I'm just about making my costs. I'm so worried that I won't be able to afford starting over alone but happy. Even as I am typing this out I can't stop crying cos I feel so helpless and worthless. Are there any other parents that have been where I am now and made it? Or should I just stay?

Sorry you are feeling like this. Are you able to go back to work full time? X

I wish I could offer some helpful advice, but I am pretty much in the same situation.

How are you feeling this afternoon?

Hi. My ds is 2 and yes it is a huge gap. My two older children are from a previous relationship. When I say 'my costs', I'm referring to bills of my own and providing for my older 2 children. Thank you for taking time to read and responding.

OP, do you suffer from depression at all? You haven't said what is making your marriage unbearable now (which is fine, you don't have to say anything you are not comfortable with) but if it's because of how you feel yourself I'd take care of that before making any decisions about your marriage.

Sorry for being general and vague. I'm not suffering from depression. My marriage has been suffering for the last few 4 years and tbh I've grown so tired of being ignored and sidelined that I just can't beat it anymore. I'm very realistic so I don't expect all of my dh attention and neither do I demand it. I only ask if he's with me then he be with me, not on his phone. There are other things. I have tried talking about this before and he makes an effort for a month then just goes back to being like before. I'm at a lost. I just want to see if there are others going through a similar thing.