In thinking I’m being blown off on purpose

[Forgottencoffee]

I met a woman last year with a DS the same age as mine. We were both on maternity leave and met a few times a week. We both returned to work part time in November and have only met again once since then about 2 weeks before Christmas.

We only have one day a week we’re both free (and weekends) and every week we’ve both agreed to do something then either the night before or the morning of said meet she has text me to say she can’t make it saying things like

She’s poorly (lasted 2 weeks)
She’s been called in to work
Her DS is poorly (used 3 times)
She’s too scared drive to X activity

I’m not sure what is going on because sometimes she’s suggested we meet up so it’s not always me “making the first move”. I just feel put out.

The last time we met she came to my home (for the 1st time) and she stayed a couple of hours while our DC played.

I’m considering just leaving it now and waiting for her to come to me with suggestions and offers of meeting.

AIBU or is this just life and should I just get over it?

It could just simply be life. Young DC get ill, preferably before school age so they have immunity against bugs, you get ill when they’re ill, work has to be caught up on etc. It’s one of those things.

Nice me thinks she may have anxiety issues if she feels unable to drive to x.
Bitchy me says she cba with you and best ltb.

I only have 1 day a week when I'm not working (apart from weekends) and I struggle to fit everything I need to do into that day. And, when I'm feeling under the weather I might drag myself into work but on that one day off I don't have the energy to do much, and certainly not socialise. This time of year, not back at work long it's not impossible she's been busy. I'd probably leave the ball in her court tho, if she's needing her rest on her days off she'll be grateful and if she's ghosting you then you'll be grateful!