To be annoyed with ex-DH for letting 3yr DS watch certificate 12 and over movies

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My ex DH lets my DS watch movies that are certificated 12 and over. He has let him watch Spiderman, Fast and the Furious and Pirates of the Caribean. I think it is totally unacceptable but he will not listen to me

I'd be furious!
It's irresponsible.

He's a prat. Does he have any parents or family who could drop a word in his shell-like? Or tell him ds has nightmares afterwards?

It is a very personal decision. Some children are allowed to watch these things, but they are rated for a reason. I do let mine watch some 12 films, but only if I am with them, as the content may be unsuitable, scary, or raise questions in need of discussion. Small children don't always know reality from fantasy, and that is why they should not be left alone with the television- who knows what they are watching, and how do they distinguish between what is real and what is just pretend?

My ds2 (age 11) was shown I Robot (15 cert) at school. That made me mad. I don't object to the content, but that should be my decision, not some spotty young teacher's.

pS- they are a bit older than 3.

id tell him your ds is having nightmares.your not being unreasonable.my dd and ds(7 and 6) have seen spiderman but we watched it with them and talked about it afterwards,they werent bothered at all.

I don't have anything to do with his family. I tried the subtle approach by sending him an e-mail with the link to the people that set the age limits but found out at the weekend that he has let him watch Spiderman, my DS is really scared of the green goblin. So had a huge shouting match with him this morning over it. Don't know how I can get him to listen to me.

I'd explain to him that a responsible parent would not let a 3 year old watch films that are meant for much older people.
Your son is not yet old enough to choose what is appropriate for him, and that is what parents are for.
Suggest some titles that you would be happy with - and maybe even rent them yourself and send them along when your son visits his Dad. You could even throw in a bag of popcorn, and suggest your ex DH has a cinema afternoon with your son? Maybe a friendlier approach would be more effective.

It's very difficult because he just tells me what I want to hear and then does whatever he likes. He really is very irresponsible, I think he just doesn't think of what consequences his actions may have. Unfortuntley my DS spends half of the week with him so it's very difficult for me to monitor what they are doing. Although saying that DS will be going to school in September so will not spend quite as much time with his father.

i think you are being totally resonable, but have no idea how to make him listen to you. Can you prime DS to tell him how scary he found green goblin, and gave him nightmares?
fortyplus, I've had that at school too, Y8 pupils watching 15's - actually there are some i don't mind him watching, but do think schools should stick to the guidelines.

My ex DH is the same. he let our 8 DS watch Casino Royale among other things and I was not impressed... I mean, the scene with him being tortured naked in a chair!!!

I have let my DS watch 12 rating films such as Spiderman and Superman when I knew what the content of the film was - even watched them before him just to make sure but if it is full of inappropriate scenes of violence, sex drugs etc then he doesn't watch them.

I have tried talking to my ex about these things in the past but he takes no notice what so ever!

Sorry have changed my name just to confuse people, thought the one given to me was too long.

What do you do then, I find it so difficult not having control over what he does with him. Especially in these instances when he is clearly being a prize prat!!