I think I am small mind

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DD (5) just had her 5th birthday party two weeks ago. We invited her whole class (30 kids). Response was good. Obviously some didn't come but most of them politely replied and told me that they couldn't make it. Only two didn't respond at all. I think it's actually pretty good.

Yesterday DD received a party invite ... from one of those two who didn't reply to our party. DD asked if she can go and I told her that if it doesn't clash with other events we can go. Deep down in my head, I can't help having a thought: why should I come to your party if you don't even bother to respond to mine. Now i think am really small-minded.

Maybe the child didn’t pass the invitation to the parent. Or the parent thought they’d replied but had forgotten. Or thought their partner had so didn’t need to. Or told their child to tell your daughter and they forgot.

I’d let your daughter go.

Think of it this way - why take it out on the child for the parents' oversight?

Yes a bit. It’s not about you, it’s whether your DD wants to go. Anyway, have you never made a mistake and forgot to reply to something?

Yes you are. Why make a big deal and see things that probably aren’t there.

It’s happened to me. Dd hasn’t had an invite to a party but I found out after the event when the invite came home too late!

At least you know they didn't come due to disliking you and /or your dc!!

To consider penalising your daughter because some mum didn't respond isn't small minded. It's petty and mean to your kid.

It's not your party or your invite it's hers. There could be many reasons there was no response, from invite getting lost, to parent not getting it, or a busy parent forgetting.

I think you need to stop thinking of your daughters social,life as yours.

Reread your own words and work out what's wrong with them.

why should I come to your party if you don't even bother to respond to mine

Yes

DS brought home party invites weeks after the party had passed

We've had 'other people's invites' written by mum and the name crossed out and DD name written in by the party child

We've had invites meant for Child A when ours is Child B

I have forgotten about replying

I have replied and forgotten to take them

Shit happens

If she wants to go take her - if not a short reply of no thanks is lol that's needed

Don't feed the party crap

Your thinking - this way, madness lies.

Get over it, could be a load of reasons they didn't reply. And you would let your child miss out because if it??

We had the exact same thing. We did go to the other child's party and the host apologised for not replying to ours as one of her parents had died and she obviously has a lot to sort out and wasn't thinking straight.
I think you should go if your child wants to.

why should I come to your party if you don't even bother to respond to mine

I thought it was a kid's party?

Worra. Yes that's what stands out for me. The op speaks like it's her party and she's the one invited to this little,girls party.

That's, well, odd.

Op, do you have a social,life of your own?