To take daughters money for her toys.

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My 5 year old DD is obsessed with these L.O.L dolls. When I was shopping yesterday I saw they were running low in the shop and knowing they are very popular I brought one for when my daughter has enough money. She gets £2 per week from her Nan and I always buy her something when I get paid at the end of the month. When I got home I was explaining to my mum what I was planning to do and she told me I was being mean. AIBU to use her money to buy something she constantly asks for?

How have you paid for it when you haven't bought It?

I did the same with a magazine mine wanted the other day. It was getting ridiculous, magazine buying, so we said they could have one monthly. It wasn't time for a new magazine so I took their pocket money! YANBU.

Not sure I understand what you mean @whatshallidonowpeople
And @pengggwn she’s constantly asking for one every day. Like I said I only brought it because they quite often sell out and don’t come back in for weeks. When she went to spend the last bit of her Xmas money last weekend she picked up about 6 and I had to explain she didn’t have enough money. My mum gave in and brought her one so she ended up getting 3. One of which has mysteriously disappeared 🤔

I think it’s because you keep saying ‘brought’ when you clearly ‘bought’ it

OP, ignore WhatshallIdonow, she is being snarky because you said brought instead of bought.

It's obvious you meant bought so no need for her to be sharky.

I think YANBU. Manage your finances the way you want to.

It's fine, it will help her learn that she can have some things she wants but not everything.

I do same with my daughter. She gets pocket money from us. I know the lol stuff goes out of stock fast so I will put away for her so she doesnt miss out. I think if it more about helping her to manage money and save rather than mean.

I meant to type bought 🙈 damn auto correct on the iPad. My DS is totally different he saves his money and hardly spends anything. Maybe a roblox voucher every 3/4 months. I wanted to give him pocket money and he just asked that I buy him a hot chocolate from costas every week. I think he’s probably got more money than me at the moment. 😂

I'm in same boat. My DD is LOL crazy. She's had some Xmas money and bit of money given to her and wants to spend it on LOLs. When I've seen them I've bought one and taken back her money. She told me if I didn't do that then she could have two! I'm feeling 'taking' her money is a good life lesson!

It was actually the lil sisters version which are £6 they have totally sold out of the original ones. Yes the are very expensive. She’s also obsessed with shopkins so it’s a bit of mix and match buying however she almost has all of the world vacation ones so she is waiting for the next season. She actually plays with them everyday so I don’t mind her spending the money. As long as she has it that is...

I do the same my 5 year old gets “pocket money” from her grandfather every week. Sometimes she sets her sights on something that costs say 25 and i explain how many weeks she needs to save etc but other times she spends it on Blind Bags and other tat. I think she’s starting to learn the value of money.

Yeah my DD just informed me when she has enough money she wants another L.O?L 😂 think she finally got the point that mo year don’t just appear

Exactly as holasoydora said, myself and DH have started telling my eldest that magazines will come out of his money, mainly because he only ever wants the free gift and the stickers, while the rest of the magazine gets thrown aside. If your daughter wants the lol dolls then it's fine for her to get them with he pocket money.

YANBU. At some point they need to start understanding the value/cost of things, but she be disappointed if she saved and then they were out of stock and spend it on something else instead,

We have done this with our daughter. She is 7 in May and had money from some family for Christmas. Some had been spent but she had some left. She wanted to buy a toy, but did not have her purse so we said we would pay for it and take the money out of her purse when we got home to replace our money. She did not understand at first, but got her head round it in the end.

We have also started giving her pocket money £5 a week. She can choose to save or spend, but knows she can only spend it once.

She is saving for a pair of binoculars she has seen at the wetlands. Cost £55 so achievable in a reasonable length of time and something worth buying as she will be able to use them for a number of years. It is not stopping her buying some things (some two pack shopkins last week), but she is determined that she also wants to save some pocket money so is being more careful what she spends on.

CanIhavedessertfirst - we were getting overrun with comics and she was mainly picking them for the toys. I told her that she could not have another until the previous one had been read (I would settle for in part or the puzzles being done). The incentive of the toys wasn't enough and she doesn't ask very much now, so when she does have one it is more likely to be read.