Sis is getting married in June. Engaged early last year, venue booked autumn, was asked to be bridesmaid along with cousin of groom and a best mate. All 3 of us and her live in different countries.
She lives in a different country so we don’t see much of each other.. have asked a couple of times about plans etc.. she is totally into somethings... like picking the songs for disco and finding a caterer that can meet her sashimi requirements 😉 but very relaxed (read not interested) in others... such as bridesmaid stuff. For example.
Speaking to Mum this morning, and apparently she’s thinking of changing her mind and not having bridesmaids as “she can’t be bothered with the hassle” of sorting dresses and having to get our hair and make up done apparently 
Now I’m really not that arsed, but AIBU to think it’s a bit shit to ask folk, change your mind for shit reasons and then not actually bother tell us? Tbf she’s got form for this sort of stunt, you’d think she was w teenager.