A bit of back story
I work in a male dominated team, only woman in a team of 19. Most of the guys are great but our general manager is a giant ass. He is such a bully. sometimes its like being in high school all over again, with everybody trying to be on the good side of the queen bitch and me being picked on cos i refuse to kiss ass. He loves to have team meetings in the pub which I don't mind most of the time but pub meetings involve 30 mins of actual work related discussions followed by 2- 3 hours of drinking and people bashing (he is a mean drunk). he is single and usually not in a hurry to go home but some of the guys in the team have spouses and kids like me so naturally we can't always drink and hang with him for hours on end till he decides to go home. whenever the guys decide to go home, he starts making comments like "oh run home to your ball and chain" or "she needs to take you off your leash every once in a while". even though nobody says anything, you can tell they don't like it.
One time he started bashing a colleague from another team talking about how she sleeps around and called her a slut. Needless to say, he is not my favourite person. So while i am polite, i am not exactly friendly towards him. i am guessing that this is the reason he finds all sorts of reason to pick on me.
He rejected my linkedin request. he refused to sign my birthday card. made my life hell when i was pregnant, won't approve my work from home requests on antenatal appointment days, keeps referring to my maternity leave as a holiday. All that i can live with but i have been in this company for 3 years without any promotion. the guy i started at the same level with at the same time has been promoted, since being in that team, i have trained 3 team members (this is a highly technical line of work, so training involves lots of time and effort)one of the people i trained has been promoted so actually outranks me now.
A few weeks ago I got a call from a recruiter that saw my profile on linkedin and asked me if i was interested in a role about 2 steps higher than my current role, i said sure, Honest to God, I did not do any kind of prep cos at the back of my mind i was under-qualified but the interview experience would be beneficial, The interview was very technical, involving 3 interviewers and lasted 1 and a half hours, it was intense. last week i was told i was successful and offered a salary twice my current one.
Here comes the tricky bit, i suffered a bereavement a few weeks ago and have asked for compassionate leave, wibu to hand in my notice before my compassionate leave or hand it in immediately after the leave. i cannot leave it any longer than immediately after i come back from the leave as my start date for the new job is the second week in march. I don't want to burn whats left of a rickety bridge but I have been having epic "I quit" fantasies.