Take the car or go by train?

[VelvetSpoon]

I'm going to a family funeral next week. My DC (16 and 19) are probably also coming though this isn't definite yet.

The church service is at church A, which is 5 mins walk from a station. The internment is at cemetery B, about 10 miles away (no direct public transport route and the nearest train station is a 25 min walk. I know cos I walked from there before - everyone in my family is buried in this cemetary). After that, the wake is another 9 miles back. Still a couple of miles from the church and again no direct route. And not that near any public transport.

If I go by car, I have to drive through London several times. I haven't been driving long, and unfamiliar routes make me nervous. My bf might be coming, he has offered to drive but isn't keen on doing so, and also I don't like being reliant on other people.

Parking is also going to be horrendous. I think the family will have applied for day permits but if there aren't enough to go round I will be screwed as all the parking is residents only.

If you were me what would you do?

Is there space in other cars when you get there, so people at the funeral could drive you to the other bits? If so, I'd get the train.

I can't guarantee that. Quite a lot of my relatives are elderly so it's likely some won't be driving and be passengers with others. Plus if both my boys go (or even all of us if my bf is able to come too) that's 3-4 of us to try and accommodate in other people's cars. I feel it's a bit of an imposition.

Go to church service and wake. Skip internment. Explain car problems to the relatives.
Either that or organise to share taxis with others.

Train and taxis.

Is it London? Take the train, then if people can't squeeze you in cars take a taxi/uber.

Train and taxi.

Yes it's central London (well, church and wake are. Cemetery is outskirts).

I hadn't thought of a taxi. That could be an option although I'm a bit concerned we might have to wait around too long and be late for the cemetery.

Would no one take the car? I half expected to be told to get over myself and drive. Although I'm not overly keen.

If it's central London then use Uber or similar. You won't have to wait long.

I agree with others that say train and taxi, ask the people that live near by for the number of a reliable taxi company , it would be worth seeing if this cab company has a mini bus you could hire that and give others a life to the different places .

Train and taxis. Difficult journey anyway and in a distressed state - no . find some local taxi firm numbers in advance. And yes, miss the interment if you prefer.

Sorry for your loss.

Taxis or contact relatives and ask for a lift

I don't really have a quick way of contacting relatives other than the immediate family of the relative who passed, who obviously I don't want to trouble with my travel arrangements.

It's mostly black cabs round there (which will be a fortune). Maybe we will not go to the internment and go from church to wake. Although I'll need to find us something to do for the intervening 2 hours or so...