To ask - baby doesn’t like granny wwyd?

[Monkeywench101]

I have a 19 month old who used to adore DM. She came to stay for a week once and he barely looked at me the whole time in favour of her. We’ve recently moved a lot nearer her and he was absolutely fine at first - loved when granny came over and was genuinely pleased and excited to be around her. However somethings changed and I’m not sure why. He’s gone completely cold with her - won’t hug her, won’t play with her and barely acknowledges her. Seems fine with everyone else. DM is understandably finding this hard and to be honest so am I! It’s quite hurtful to watch - if she goes to hug him he will deliberately come and hug me or DH to avoid her.

Has anyone had this or similar happen? Did they grow out of it? What did you do to encourage things to go back to the way they were? DM says nothing has happened as far as she know to cause this so it’s really very confusing...

Meh, unless she’s accidentally given him a fright it’s just a phase and soon enough he will be back to his usual self. Don’t push it, it will almost certainly sort itself out pretty soon.

And if you’ve recently moved he may somehow associate seeing her more frequently with the upheaval of change so just be gentle and let it settle. It’s not personal I’m sure.

We’ve had it and I thought it was difficulty dealing with two female lead carers at the same time. When the Mum was out, the child was back to normal with granny!

Some children can sense desperation for want of a better word and prefer to come around to that person in their own time/way.... he’s only little and hasn’t deliberately set out to hurt anyone... it’s a phase but some phases can last months or more... he will come around eventually though!

This happened with DD when she was a toddler. Mil just held back and did not force the issue. She let dd come to her, rather than the other way round. It worked, they are now very close dd is nearly 11.

My baby/toddler niece hated me, I think she was scared of me but literally no idea why. Until she was old enough to realise I would put peppa pig on my phone for her if she asked. Then we were best friends. Your DM just needs to find some bribery common ground.

Yes, my DD suddenly started crying and hiding when my mum visited. It was very upsetting. She'd take about an hour to be friendly and was on edge the whole time (DD not DM). It lasted a few months, and happens once in a blue moon now.

My DGD is nearly 2. She is lovely to everyone else. She would not kiss or hug me, in fact, she made a point of putting her arms out to me, then when I went for a hug, she would laugh and pull away, little monkey!

She can still be the same at times. I do find if I am left on my own with her, she becomes very loving, I get my kisses and cuddles. She is even like it sometimes when others are around now.

The one thing I did do is back off completely and let her come to me.
She favours my young DS over my young DD, because my DD tries to force things and will not back off.