What would you do?

[Pompom42]

Ok cut a long story short. I live in a small village and about 7 years ago I used to be friends with a woman we had a fallout and are no longer friends. I probably bump into her around 4-10 times per year and we just ignore each other and go about our day.
Her Sister moved here around 4 years ago and sends her children to the local schools. She’s quite loud and uses every opportunity she can to shout things out to me in the street and stick her fingers up and do “woofing” noises.
I just ignore her as I googled bullying once and it said the best way to stop it is just to ignore the person.
I took my dog to meet my daughter from school the other day and I waited for her on the corner of the road as I usually do. Nothing happened with my dog but the next day she saw me getting out of my car and shouted out to me “if your dog tries to bite my sons coat again whilst you stand there laughing I’m going to report you”. I stood there open mouthed and didn’t say a word.
I spoke to my eldest daughter about it and we both agreed that nothing had actually happened.
Fast forward a few weeks and she’s started to stare at my daughter when she walks home from school and pulls faces etc. This has happened on 2 occasions now.
My daughter has come home and is quite upset about it.
This woman is a t.a at the local junior school.
I’m wondering what to do about this situation and if it’s the proper way to behave if you work in a school. Trying to intimidate a young girl. First time daughter was with a friend. Second time on her own.

TBH I read these and wonder why the womans job has any bearing on the situation unless of course y u are going to demand the HT of this womans school sacks her. Which won't happen.

So. You are left with possible harrassment. If it happens on your childs school premises, then your HT deals with it. If it happens off site, in public, if you feel that you must log it with the police, then do so.

That sounds awful for you and your daughters. Do your children go to the same school?

SundaySalon my daughter goes to Secondary School and her Son is year below my daughter. She can walk home on her own but sometimes to surprise her I meet her from school with the dog and her baby sister

HollyBayTree
It happens off school premises. I just mentioned about her being a TA as when I’ve worked in a nursery previously we had to be very careful about our conduct outside of work

Bloody hell, the immaturity of some people is staggering. I'd actually give the police a call/visit and ask for their advice. As she's now intimidating your DD, speak to the HT about it. You should def make a note of everything she does.

Definitely call 101, and speak to the HT. It's definitely harassment, and she's intimidating your DD. It's beyond pathetic, and clearly scary for your DD.

In that case you should absolutely report it to the HT. I am employed by a school, but work in a separate part of it (like a child health clinic) I have no doubt if someone reported me to the HT with this behaviour she would investigate it.
You’re right to ignore it though, she wants you to rise to it, don’t give her any reasons to complain about you. Start logging everything you remember and let them know.

I normally bump into her about 6-8 times a year so most of the time shrug it off. I was standing the other month chatting with an elderly neighbour. She walked past and just started laughing really loudly. You could argue that it wasn’t aimed at me and she was laughing at a joke on her phone or whatever but now she’s started on my daughter I feel I need to do something. I’ve just been thinking what to do.
I know where she lives and was thinking about sending someone to knock and speak to her about it but I’ve a feeling it’s make the situation worse. We are not Kids btw I’m in my forties and she in her thirties.

I would continue to ignore her and get your daughter to tell her HT that she is being intimidated by this TA outside of school.

If you're in your 40s how the hell did you think sending someone to "knock and speak to her" would be a good idea?

I'd complain to 101 and her boss / HT as well.

Unlikely to lead to anything significant although she might realise she's being a dick and back off. Ifit doesn't then you've made the first step and complain it's continuing.

The police may give her a warning, which should put a stop to it. How horrible for your poor daughter.
Is it possible to make amends with her sister, is it unfinished busines

I too would report to the police and tell DDs HT.

nextDayDelivery this is very true. I think it was out of desperation really. Then thought I would come and ask in here. I just thought that she probably thinks she’s getting away with it and if someone knocked and spoke to her like my daughters father for example she may be embarrassed and back off.
In the past when I’ve been with either of my daughters she hasn’t said anything to me which I was glad about as I’d hate my children to see someone shouting at me in the street.
But now she is intimidating my daughter which is a relatively new thing.

This woman is a t.a at the local junior school.

Then you have every right to record her vile behaviour and forward it on to her HT at the school she's employed by. She sounds like a total dick and needs to learn to behave like an adult.

She sounds quite unstable. I'd be horrified if someone like this was a ta in my childs class. Defo report to the school and also the police as she is intimidating your child now.

Don't get your DH involved, he will be made out to be the aggressor.

Will your DD let you support her to report it?

You are both being harassed and it needs to be addressed.

Her job is relevant because she there is an exception on how you conduct yourself. The minute that she sees that you will not put up with this, it will stop. She is using intimidating behaviour towards a child, any decent person in the village will see her in a different light if this comes out.

SweetMoon this is my thinking which is why I thought about going into the school. I know the HT as my daughter attended that school but left 2 years ago. It’s making me think that I don’t want my DD walking home alone

Birdsgottafly yes I think you’re right. This is why I said about her job. Also I know you can’t think too much into the future but my baby will attend the juniors in approx 5 years time and I will be reluctant to send her there if this isn’t sorted by then.

Don't go round to her house and don't send someone else round.

I agree with PPs who have said to talk to your local police and ask for a meeting with the headteacher. I also work in a school and am sure that the headteacher will want to know about this behaviour and will take it very seriously indeed.

Yes it’s my daughters previous junior school she’s at Secondary now so I know the HT quite well.
Not sure how seriously he will take it as she works there and her daughter has just started there in September. But I feel like I have to do something else it’ll just go on and on