Failing at housework

[N2986]

I know this might sound over the top but I need either reassurance or a kick up the arse.

I've got 3dcs 6, 2 and 3 months. Ds2 is currently being reviewed for ASD. I'm a sahm but feel like I'm failing. The house always looks messy (not dirty though), I feel like I've always got a kid crying and I'm always putting too much on my husband, who already works hard supporting us.

Aibu to think I'm failing here or will it just get better in time? Also, I'm eating crap because I never have time for myself and feel like I'm gaining more weight rather than losing my baby weight.

I can't afford a cleaner sadly and don't have any family near by to watch the kids for an hour or two.

What am i doing wrong here?

You're not doing anything wrong. You're in a hard period just now. It will get better.

It’s hard going at those ages. Can you go to mother and toddler groups?

You're not doing anything wrong, those are tough ages. When mine were 3 and 4, my house was messy and often dirty. The few precious moments I had without a toddler clinging onto me, I spent them eating and watching trash TV as I didn't have energy or time for anything else. It passes though.

You’re not doing anything wrong.
You’ve got a young baby, a toddler and a 6 yr old. It’s tough looking after them and trying to keep the house tidy.
Look after yourself as much as you can. Moshe yourself a priority sometimes. Eat more fruit and veg and drink more water. Get out of the house for a bit every day and get as much sleep as you can.
The rest will slowly fall into place.

You're not doing anything wrong. my house is still a mess and mine are older! kids make mess and take up your time. Don't be hard on yourself.

Thank you all. This makes me want to cry a little. Just feel like I'm letting everyone down right now. Three really is so much harder than two was!