Can’t do this anymore I feel broken

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Sahm 2 dc- 1 at school and 1 toddler. I get next to no help Dh works 6 days a week and I’m at home and studying.
All my ‘baby friend’ back at work now.
I’m tired, I’m bored and fed up- everything is a slog a constant from the minute my eyes open. I feel like there’s no fun in my life.
I get out occasionally when Dh has the kids but we have next to no help gp won’t really babysit so never had a night away.
I know others have it worse but honestly I so fed up of this.
I love my dc so much but it’s hard.

Being a parent is hard OP, its harder still with little to no support

Have you spoken to your GP about how you feel ? You shouldnt dread the day ahead every single day, its not healthy.

Can toddler attend childcare for a day or two? Sounds like you need a break.

It won’t be long until toddler is in school as well. Imagine all the extra time!

Go back to work. I love my children dearly but can't bear the whole SAHM thing. My 3 cost me basically 80% of my wage every month in CM costs but even if it COST money I'd still do it as it makes me happy.

Is here money for a nursery place just for one day. Then you have one day for your self to catch up, shop alone etc.
I know some people say nursery’s are bad but my little one goes and she enjoys it. She’s fed, watered and allowed to play with shaving foam! I also have the option of paying extra days if I have a hospital appointment I don’t want to take her to.

I feel your pain. I returned to work part time and after all childcare was paid I only made £30 per month. It was worth it.

Dc loved nursery and I loved the break I got by going to work.

Even drinking a coffee in peace was amazing

I’ve been looking at part time work options for a while applied for a couple but nothing came of those :( will keep looking

I feel your plight. Can you do private nursery a couple of mornings/days a week?

You may need to work FT initially to get back into paid work. Most good PT roles go to existing employees.

What are you studying for? Will this benefit your future WoH? If not perhaps give that a break.

Any funds for paid childcare to give you a break? Eg childminder ad hoc sessions or gym creche.

Are you getting much sleep?

Can you speak to the grand parents to see if they can help?

How old is your toddler? At 3 they'll get 15 free hours at nursery (30 if you go back to work).

I feel for you, I work part time and fill the days off with toddler groups etc as it means the toddler is entertained by someone other than me and I get a cup of tea!

Do you get out much?
What do you like doing or did like doing before kids?

What do you do when your dh has a day off?

There is more than the the daily slog but you have to put energy into it.

Keep looking for a part-time job, it will make all the difference. You need to feel like you again, instead of just a mum. Call on friends and family, let them know how low you are feeling, reach out for help to get you through this.

Yeah it’s bloody impossible isn’t it? I work part time but on my days “off” I have a 3 year old and a 20 month old. Going anywhere or doing anything is like an impossible task! I’m also basically exhausted all the time. It’s so difficult.

How old is your toddler?

Once they are in pre-school, you will pretty much have the whole day to sort out cleaning, washing, shopping, etc.

Use the one day off your dh has to have a day (or afternoon) out together as a family and have some fun.

Pay a babysitter to sit once a week so that you can go out with your dh.

Unless there is something else, this is really not a difficult situation.

You need a job! Apply for shed loads - no point in only applying for one or two as it’s a coverage game.

Children are not all-fulfilling. If they were, men would have designed society so that they get to stay at home and women go out and work!

Children are not all-fulfilling. If they were, men would have designed society so that they get to stay at home and women go out and work!

Exactly. Men (in the main) don't want to give up their careers and spend all day with small children, yet women are supposed to find it wondrous. While some possibly do, it's perfectly normal to find it stultifying and exhausting, and that doesn't mean you love them any less.

I love work and after a reasonable length maternity leave I was always glad to get back, part-time for a while.

Oh and childcare costs should be shared costs. You can both work, pay money into a joint account (keeping an equal amount spare for personal spending), and pay childcare from the joint account. It's not the woman's responsibility to play for childcare.

Thank you all for your msg really appreciate it I feel so drained today but this is helping.
I’m doing an MA so wouldn’t be able to work more than 20 hours per week as I wouldn’t have time to study too. I do enjoy the course but my mum promised to look after ds 1–2 times per week which hasn’t really happened. She does babysit every few months so me and Dh can go out but not often.
I will keep looking and applying for different jobs. I have got volunteer work which interests me.
But none of its ‘fun’ I feel like I need

Need to laugh more everything is serious. I feel like it’s seeping into my personality I find times where people are making jokes and I laugh when I should but it’s false iyswim