Or is this really shitty advice?

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Read this in the daily sun. Aibu or this really bad advice and disrespectful?

Jane needs sacking

What's wrong with it? If he has to have a sexless relationship then yes, he is going to have to consider if that's for him long term.

Do you expect good advice in The Sun?

Lol you do realise that these letters are written by the junior office staff don't you? I wouldn't believe a word of it but yes I think it's crap advice

YABU to buy the sun and expect anything but utter drivel in it.

I'd hope it's fake lol. I know what you mean it does seem like a strange letter Someone would send in. Yeah the sun isn't a very reliable news source haha.

Well... that poor sod has a right to feel sad about his lack of spontaneous sex... he's 23... it's supposed to be exciting still at that age, isn't it?

And the advice is spot on. Ask, then live with it or leave. Why on Earth would you do anything else, at any age!

I don't see what is shitty or rude about either part of that!

I think it's perfectly reasonable. No sex at 23?

Jane is really Dave because no sane woman on earth would give such a bullshit response. And Dave needs a kick to the crotch and a copy of this book. Aimed at children I imagine it's around Dave's reading and comprehension level.

www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1575424614/ref=as_at?linkCode=g12&slotNum=4&imprToken=vEA8YsTGDAJpfz7iUASMWA&creativeASIN=1575424614&tag=mumsnetforum-21&ie=UTF8&creative=399349&camp=217145

Advice seems reasonable to me. At 23 without kids, I'd be saying move on - she's just not that into you.

Thinking about it... isn't it just a male version of a post on here recently?

Or was that Take A Break / other weird weekly magazine I never read (honest)

As though the girls he works with keep 'going on about the great sex they have' - how odd!

I wish I'd left my OH when I was 26 and our sex life dried up. Now I'm 36, 2 kids and my fanjo is shrivelling up through lack of use

It’s the sun! What did you expect? And to be honest, she does have a point.

I don’t think it’s a real letter but the advice doesn’t seem bad to me. She’s basically suggesting that he talk to his girlfriend, find out if she’s really too stressed or just not interested either in sex or in him, in which case consider whether they are compatible.

It’s the sun. What exactly do you expect???

Eh? Looks like perfectly good advice to me.

What exactly is wrong with the advice? He's told to make his feelings clear and leave the relationship if he's not happy.

Whooooami...why would you recommend that book? No-one is suggesting he coerce or harass the woman.

Who doesn’t want a decent shag at 23? How fucking dull would it be at 23 or infact any age to never had a shag shag

Advice seems ok to me, talk about it and then either accept your never getting a good shag or leave

I think I just don't like how her response is worded. I understand his issue and staying in a sexless relationship is bad.

That advice is perfect; he’s only 23. If he’s not getting any sex now he should leave as it’s important to him and understandably making him unhappy.

No kids, no ties, he should get out and find someone more compatible.

WhooooAmI24601 Why would the advice columnist, whether male or female, need a copy of that book?

They’re not suggesting he force her to have sex with him, they’re saying the problem needs to be addressed and if there’s no solution he should leave, which he absolutely should.

He should not be forced into a sexless life, just like she shouldn’t be forced into sex.

Isn't that exactly the advice that would be given on here? Discuss it with your partner and then end the relationship if you're not compatible?

What do you think the advice should be?

It doesn't sound unreasonable to me, either. Talk to your partner, see if the problem can be resolved: if it can't be resolved, it's OK to move on.
At least, according to the impression given by this letter, the (hypothetical) couple have no DC and don't live together, so they are probably better off splitting up if they are already having problems over sex.

I doubt a 23 year old man who reads The Sun would use the phrase ‘I long’, however, the advice seems fair enough, the couple aren’t a pair who’ve been married for ten years and just had a baby, at 23 who’d want that?