Hi there. My kids age 16&14, so not young any more, have been thru the wringer over the last few years. (Divorce, dad moved continents, loads more but don’t wish to bore). The new stepmum (I will call her Mum2) and my kids got on well while she and exH still lived here and knew her reasonably well over a couple of years. She was a very nice, kind, funny lady. Unfortunately she had to return to this country as she was ill, and her family are based in the same county as us. My exH had told us before Christmas that she had died, we assumed thru the illness. The death was in November. In October last year, the exH got engaged to potential wife3.
Purely by chance yesterday, (blame google) I discovered that wife2 had not died peacefully. She took her own life in a particularly violent and horrible way. I believe what she did was directly an ‘in your face’ kind of thing to the exH.
My dilemma is this: I myself am having difficulties getting my head around this. My kids knew her much better than I did. Should I tell them the brutal facts of her manner of death, or should I leave it to chance that they may find out by themselves at some point, especially as we do not live too far away from where she was based. It does not seem at all likely that exH will tell them. Opinions please.....