WWYD am I being oversensitive?

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A conversation took place in work today where someone asked me if I was from a particular country. I said I was not born in the country she is referring to but my Mothers side of the family are from there, my mother was also born there.

A colleague on the other side of the room said "coming here taking our jobs" in a stupid voice like she was joking.

I wish I had said something there and then but I didn't. However, it has offended me. Not enough to make a complaint but enough to approach her.

Do you think I have left it too late now to bring it up, was a couple of hours ago.

I just thought this was such a mindless uneccessary thing to say. She is known for speaking without thinking sometimes.

She pissed me off later int he day also, made me look like a fool (work thing in front of manager) so I don't want her to think I am picking holes because of that.

What do you think? Should I say something or just move on.

If she was a close colleague, friend, and obviously joking, still bad taste. If just commenting, what an arse!

Wait and see, look at this in a bigger picture and if you think the colleague has an issue, ask her.

i think it was a stupid joke that went wrong, and perhaps the later thing was her knowing she'd fucked up and panicking

Sleep on it. See what happens in the next few days.

Not a close colleague as in I do not socialise with her or tex, fb outside of work.

I don't think you've left it too late to speak to her if you want to.

I wouldn't suggest sleeping on it, or giving yourself a bit of time to reflect on it. If you're offended now, speak to her now. I think it would seem weird if you waited a few days and then tried to speak to her.
Plus, you might just find yourself dwelling on it and getting more cross (speaking from experience!)

It sounds like it might have been a joke on her part that was inappropriate or misguided, but if you were offended, you were offended. If it was me, I would definitely want to know if I'd said something to upset someone so I could make sure I didn't do it again.

It was just so random. I can understand that it could have been meant as a joke. Albeit a really bad one.

I don't think for a second that she was mocking these Britain First types. Im quite confused as to why she said it and why she thought it to be appropriate!

I guess I feel like a bit of a snowflake saying something. My Manager has told me to speak with her though. I told her I didn't want to raise it as a complaint so she is staying out of it. Unless I ask her to get involved.

It depends.

DH gets this. He is from another country but is white and speaks English. So he sometimes gets the 'coming here, taking our jobs -drinking our beer' banter and it's meant to be like a playful spin on racist/ xenophobic language.

No malice is meant but you don't have to dig very deep to realise that he is 'the same' enough for the joke to be understood as a joke and if he werent the same enough it would be understood that it isn't a joke at all.

I was that person who spoke without thinking. I did need a bit of help in a professional environment and i'm glad that people had words. I can now understand why I wasn't completely liked in my younger days, tbh.

Between close friends that banter is acceptable (My father/Grandfather were immigrants), but not at work.

She's done it without thinking, so keep it light.

Thanks. I agree, I dont believe it was in malice but there are a couple of colleagues here who are from various parts of Europe so maybe I will go down that route. Be careful what you say etc