AIBU to expect my boss to listen to me?

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I mean just that. Listen. To. Me.

We are not based in the same office. He is an unbelievably bad manager at the best of times, no direction, constant negativity, no support. If there is every an issue or concern about anything he will instantly go on the attack and blame the nearest person. All wildly annoying but the phone calls beat it all.

He answers others questions in his office while on the phone to me.

I will be discussing an issue or idea and all I hear is silence on the other end.......he is tuned into the phone call of another staff member in his own office.

He constantly hangs up for a better (higher up) more important person. This just happened 2 hours ago - I was in the middle of explaining a delicate situation and he said I have to go I will ring you straight back. Still no reply....

So AIBU to be so bloody sick of this?

I'd be looking for another job. This would drive me mad.

A bad manager is why tomorrow is my last day at my current job - its not worth it

Do you work in journalism?

This sounds familiar!!

I dont work in Journalism!

I have said it to him so many times. I even ask 'are you listening' he just says yeah yeah. He really IS NOT.

I am at the end of my tether with him.

I have recently become involved in a new piece of work (that another higher up just dropped on my desk) and am working away on it (re-branding, re -launching etc) and have told him I want this to remain under my remit. He just informed me that he will be meeting the director of dept tomorrow to discuss my involvement as 'sure what do more work for'? I have told him about 50 times that I want to be more involved in projects such as this... no sign of my input or opinion is required.

Oh and he just got a colleague (from his office) to call me to find out the contact name for the person and organisation, who have given us this new project...

I may not be explaining this very well - I am so annoyed.

Email him and copy in the director of dept and whoever gave you the work.

Ohhhhh my boss does something that's even worse. You go to her office, talk to her and she's doing something completely different at the same time AND not looking at you. Charming, eh? Will tell her something about it soon

That would make sense - BUT and its a big one.. That would go down like a lead balloon a cause such a fuss I cant even begin to explain.

I really do feel like pulling my hair out.

Its so difficult to succinctly explain just how bad a manager he is and the things that he does, without sounding petty. Its like low level bullying really he constantly tells me 'the walls have ears'....even though I am doing nothing wrong!!

OP, that sucks big time. Deep breaths. You need to ask yourself - will he change. If not, what good does it do to lay it on thick to him that he is a bad manager in his DNA.

I agree with you when you say That would go down like a lead balloon a cause such a fuss I cant even begin to explain.

This could very well be a battle you cannot win and the alternatives may in the medium term, lie outside this employer. In the meantime, there might be a restructure, he might leave, you might move to another department and he might even help you. The strategic approach is not to burn bridges unnecessarily.