Making drinks for others....AIBU!!

[LittleMissUnreasonable]

Accidently hid my other thread so will use this one

Not sure if being OTT but just wondered other people's views on this.

Live in a house share at the moment with a couple of friends. Just me and 1 friend (DF) were in this weekend with our DPs. I offered too cook breakfast for the 4 of us and got all the ingredients. My DP offered to contribute but I declined as it was a treat. Friends DP didn't offer - fair enough. We all enjoyed breakfast.

Next day I got up early and DF and her DP were in the kitchen cleaning. I helped out a bit and DFDP said "I'm making coffee, do you want coffee 'DF'" She accepted and he began to make coffees. I was waiting to be offered one but he didn't. After he made DF and his own my DF was like "do you want one LittleMiss". I just said it was fine and is make my own.

Was IBU to think when someone's in the room too you'd offer them a brew rather than just make for you and your DP. If he was making for himself fair enough. If all of the housemates were there fair enough. It just seems a bit off not asking one person (who's house theyre a guest in) if they want a drink. He's not the most aware person socially.

What are people's views and general making drinks etiquette

I was waiting to be offered one but he didn't. After he made DF and his own my DF was like "do you want one LittleMiss". I just said it was fine and is make my own.

Well, he did offer you one, and you refused.

ILostIt
or f) didn't really think about it.
I work in a office with usually 3 people in, but not always the same 3. Usually if people are going to get drinks they offer round. But it does happen people forget. Usually they come back carrying theirs (and sometimes one for one person) and realise and say "Oh sorry, would you like a drink too?" and go back and get it.
No hard feelings from anyone.

@Witch

"Well, he did offer you one, and you refused."

No...I said DF offered me one when she realised her DP hadnt bothered to ask me. Sorry for the confusion

Well next time don't include him when you make breakfast for everyone!!

halfwitpicker my mum had an elderly dog like that, deaf as a post when it was time to go for a walk but could hear a sweetly wrapper rustling from the other side of the flat.

I think he’s probably just a bit ackward. If that’s the worst thing he does as a housemate I’d let it go tbh.

At first the guy was just being inconsiderate and probably a typical unaware man.

Eugh, hate this kind of man bashing crap. Most men are perfectly able adults who are aware of social norms and politeness.

OP, he sounds at best, self envolved, at worst selfish and disrespectful. Just don't do anything like that for him again as he clearly doesn't appreciate it.

Manmind evident here. He knows the ice is thin. Was probably feeling awkward not knowing house conventions; who owns what etc. Hence the "I'm making coffee statement" - he is sign posting and testing the water; is the kettle a no no? Does anyone else want one?.. No response = "kettle use not a contentious issue, make coffee".

I thought this was going to be an office one keeps pent-up frustration in check for a little longer

TBH I think you just have differing attitudes to house-sharing, although he was brave rude to be so blatant about it.

You're not each other's guest that needs hosting. You all just happen to share living space. It can get enormously tedious to not even be able to stick the kettle on without having to offer one round to all of the other tenants of the building.

Fortunately for me, back Ye Olden Days when I used to house share, we were all as rude as each other, so we just used to do our own thing in the kitchen and ignore each other.

@dontCallMe

Nooo feel free to rant away