Aibu to feel sad for my son

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BrightonBollock · 30/01/2018 11:18

None of my husband's family have acknowledged our son's birthday (12 yesterday).It was forgotten last year too.If it's bil's children,it's announced well in advance to the whole family by mil (who incidentally I get on ok with).I'm probably not the only one who has experienced this.I have no family alive on my side so guess I'm just feeling extra sad for our Ds.Have asked Dh not to mention it as I don't want to create any awkwardness or cause any angst.I'll have to mention it won't i?

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Greensleeves · 30/01/2018 11:22

If you get on well with MIL, then tell her you found it hurtful that his birthday is overlooked while BIL's children's are not. Don't have high expectations though. Most people just become defensive when confronted with this sort of criticism.

Do BIL's children see more of the family/have more of an active relationship with MIL than your DS?

Blankuser1992 · 30/01/2018 11:23

THE CHEEK OF THEM

That’s so rude! No I would bring it up OR I wouldn’t buy anything for BIL children on there birthday etc

I’d also sneak in a phone call to MIL to say oh yeah we have a great time for his birthday .. yesterday and if she ignores the topic I’d refuse to have anything to do with them.

Your husband needs to man up

PossiblyPFB · 30/01/2018 11:23

I would mention it, yes. Unless there is a massive backstory it’s likely an oversight rather than anything intentional. And next year remind everyone ahead of time just in case!

youngnomore · 30/01/2018 11:23

It is very sad for your ds. He’s not even a baby for him to remember. Tbh I would mention it to them. They sound like the sort of people who need a good nudge. Your ds is just as important as your bil’s dc.

scotchpie · 30/01/2018 11:24

That's sad for all of you, do you acknowledge BIL and his children's birthdays? If you do then stop.

youngnomore · 30/01/2018 11:24

Not to remember *

Abracadabraapileofbollocks · 30/01/2018 11:29

How sad that they can ignore a gc so readily. I'd wait until the next advance warning and respond that a shame they overlooked DS x many months ago.
I'd go to only gifts for children in DH's family as well.

897654321abcvrufhfgg · 30/01/2018 11:31

I have this with my 4th. Even more upsetting for him as his 3 siblings get cards. Even weirder is that no 1&2 get gifts as well!!! I think it’s a thinly veiled message as they thought we were mad to have more than 2!!

kaitlinktm · 30/01/2018 11:40

I would have thought it would cause less angst if your husband (rather than you) mentioned it. It's his family, he should sort it out.

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